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Are we both being bullied?

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Coffeeandavocado · 17/04/2018 21:19

Hi!!....so my dd is in reception. Recent parents evening confirmed she is very well behaved and kind to others....a few times she has come home saying that a certain other child in her class has been mean to her. I didn't think it was a big deal so left it and she's been ok. However, yesterday she came out of school crying and so was this other child. However this other child was comforted by about 6 other childrens parents and swept off the playground in sympathy with other mums looking over at my child disapprovingly. I instantly thought my child must have done something wrong and had no clue what was going on, rushed into school to ask what my dd had done and the teacher said it was the other child that had upset my dd and my dd had done nothing wrong and apologised that my child was upset. Dd's birthday party is in a couple of weeks and only 5 kids coming from a class of 29 so we may have to cancel as she wanted a big party with her class there. All bar a handful of parents have stopped talking to me and don't make eye contact. What have my dd and I done?? I'm heartbroken for my daughter and her 'big' party and why we both seem to be so unpopular....any advice??

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FridayNightDinner · 17/04/2018 21:22

Is the mum of the other child a Queen Bee type of mum that everyone fawns over? I wonder if perhaps your daughter and hers don't get on and she has blown it up out of proportion and got other parents on 'side'?

Coffeeandavocado · 17/04/2018 21:39

Not really no but she is friends with people that are. I'm just so upset about it all-do I move her to another school? I nearly cried today telling her that her party she's wanted all year has got to be a bit different to what she wanted. She didnt understand why the other kids got a big party and she isnt going to. Breaks my heart!

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FridayNightDinner · 17/04/2018 22:07

No I wouldn't move her or cancel the party yet. There are bound to be other parents who aren't in this woman's clique and who wouldn't get involved in that kind of crap. Have you had outright 'no' to the party invitation or is it that lots haven't replied? If it's the latter then I'd approach parents that haven't replied and ask them if their child is coming to the party. Lots of parents (myself included!) have good intentions to reply to invites but it slips their mind.

Benandhollysmum · 20/04/2018 15:30

BE thankful, the thing with school mums is all they do is gossip about people..you’re the topic this week and next week it be someone else. Now you know where you stand with them you never need to speak to them again. at least they make it obvious they dislike u now rather than pretend to be ur buddy and talk crap behind ur back. Raise the roof your free from the cattiness and bitchiness of them. And honestly removing your kid isn’t the answer. If you see one alone ask what the problem is, either way know your worth and ignore them.

Kids are mean to others all the time..get your kid into a martial arts class, it teaches kids to be more confident in themselves. A confident kid is a happy kid..
My nieces were bullied when they started tae Kwon do it done wonders on their confidence, people knew better than to try bully them and in the end ended up quite popular kids because their confidence soared.
I always recommend this to parents as it don’t teach kids violence it teaches them to respect themselves. And plus they make pals outwith school as well

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