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Think my son may be bullying another child

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Storminateacup74 · 05/03/2018 18:29

I hope no one shoots me down on here as I suspect my son is bullying one of his classmates. He is autistic (no excuse) but a fact. He is different to other kids and is very energetic and always likes to make people laugh. Their is a little girl in his class who is from a different culture and is also very very serious. She isn't very popular and and she does have a very intimidating look and she never smiles - he thinks this look is boring and he wants her to be a fun person like him. He laughs in her face, pokes her,sticks his tongue out at her etc and she never laughs. He is always moaning about her as she is always telling him to shut up and leave her alone. It was when he told me about The "leaving her alone" that I began to wonder why she was saying this. He has admitted to me that he is being mean as he generally doesn't lie due to his autism. We were at a play centre yesterday and she was there and he was so horrible to her. He knows I am cross and that it unacceptable behaviour and I have done lots of talking to him about differences. He sits on the same table as her at school and i have visions of him sitting there taunting her because he doesn't know when to stop. The poor child has moved schools twice due to being bullied. Should I mention it to the school?.

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stayathomegardener · 05/03/2018 20:06

Autistic or not I would come down on him very hard. Totally unacceptable behaviour.
I don't know wether to be surprised you have to ask or applaud you.

stayathomegardener · 05/03/2018 20:08

Your perfect opportunity was at soft play, as a witness you would not have been unreasonable to have removed your son as a punishment that may have resonated.

Storminateacup74 · 05/03/2018 21:26

We left the soft play centre straight away as soon as I could see he was being mean as well as having a total laptop/ tablet ban last night. A friend of mine who works at the school says that school would have spoken to me if it was a problem but i feel I need to bring it to their attention in case they are unaware.

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stayathomegardener · 05/03/2018 21:46

Fair enough re soft play.
And yes bring it up with school and then you can work in tandem with them to help both your DS and the poor girl.

GreenTulips · 06/03/2018 22:48

She isn't very popular. Really?

She's sad and miserable because she being picked on and you wonder why she doesn't have friends?

Speak to school and get your son removed from her table and make him apologise to the girl and her parents

Crazy3 · 22/05/2018 14:36

I would speak to your son and tell him that he is not allowed to be mean to this child anymore. And that if he does then you will be handing out punishments to him. I would also speak to his teacher. This child might not smile back because like you say she has been a victim of bullying and now feels bullied again.
You can help them both by sticking to your guns with your son and also tell his teacher you are not tolerating any behaviour that is not nice from him to the little girl. Maybe they should sit at separate tables also to help them both out.

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