would you talk to the parents?

[IamAporcupine]

My DS (Y1, just turned 6) has been having issues with a couple of boys at school, one of them in particular as he is the one who tells the other what to do. It started with minor issues but has escalated to the point that he is now making 'a team' against my son.

We know the boy's parents and get on ok with them (not really close, just friendly hi, how are you).

I am getting more and more concerned about this and will talk to the school (again) about it but I am wondering if we should also talk to the parents? Or is that a total no-no?

These things are better handled through the school, as they are there to witness what happens.

We had a parent make an accusation about DD1 in Reception. Our children were actually best friends. The mother confronted me at a birthday party. I was mortified, took her word for it, came down hard on DD. Marched into the school on Monday to ask why I hadn't been told and was told that the school had investigated and concluded it was BS!

My point in telling this tale is the parents may assume that you've tried through the school and had no joy - i.e. the school concluded it wasn't serious/not happening and you're trying the private prosecution route.

It's really better this is all tracked and managed through school. The bully may well do it again/probably has targeted others.