Advice of how to deal with my daughter's friend that says and does disturbing things!

[Golden23]

Hi everyone , I need some advice on how to deal with my daughter's friend. They have both just started reception together and my daughter has told me and I have seen this little girl hit my child, throw things at her etc. My daughter is so sensitive and caring that she allows this to happen and continues to play with her even though this little girl is terrible with her.
As i have just had my second baby my daughter told the friend that she has a baby brother and the friend openly said infront of my daughter and her mother and my partner that if she had a little brother she would stab it and used hand gestures to demonstrate it. I was horrified as you can imagine I am disturbed by this comment made by a 4 year old. The worst thing is this girl lives next door.
I have spoken with my daughter's teacher to try to arrange activities where my daughter can mix with other children and make new friends. I have explained the importance to my daughter not being friends with somebody that hits her and disrespects her and talks about hurting a baby. however she still plays with her as I think she feels sorry for her as the little girl has no friends except from my daughter, my daughter has never been exposed to violence ever so I thinks she also doesnt understand the severity of what her friend said and how disturbing it is. I have raised my daughter to be kind and share and be polite and she is a lovely little girl and I do not want her to be associated with a child that thinks it is funny to speak about stabbing babies and physically hurts my daughter.What else can I do other than move my child's school please.

I was 5 when my brother was born. I was not interested in him, and when people asked what I thought of him my standard reply was, "I wanted a sister, and when he's old enough I'm going to put him down the drain." Many decades later he is still alive and kicking. Don't fret about what a young child says.

It's not just what she says. She hits my child snacks her kicks her and shouts at her.

Sometimes little kids just say things and don't really understand what they mean. It's her way of saying I feel hurt, confused and upset at the thought of another child coming along and taking attention and love away from me.

Way did her parents say?
What has buttery said about the violence?

She is physically aggressive with my daughter and that's why I do not want my daughter associating with her

Her mother does anything for an easy life basically this child has no boundries. When she said she would stab a baby her mother replied with ooooh we don't say things like that.

You need school to deal with the violence and then make sure you put lots of effort into play dates with other kids.
And/or talk to the mom and say she's hitting DD and upsetting her . What else has she said that upsetc DD?

This is awful. She's a small child but hitting your DD is unacceptable. Definitely approach the school.

Definitely don't leave her with your baby!!
Not sure I would want her around at all tbh!! Hardly a fun play time for your dd!!

I would demand my child went into another class and stop the girl from coming round my house .

I'd definitely be stopping any playdates and informing the school that your child is being hit.

Mention to her Mum?

Yes I will definatley not have her in my house again point blank. Especjelly around my newborn. And since having my newborn I haven't seen her mother to speak to her whether I did or not though I don't think it would make any difference from what i have seen she has no control over the child

I have spoken with their class teacher at school. Told her what the girl had said and also made it clear that I wanted my dd to mix with other children and make new friends as this little girl will not let my dd play with anybody else. The teacher advised she cannot stop them playing together but can arrange activities with other children. I just wish my dd would stand up to get and tell her no

Told her what the girl had said and also made it clear that I wanted my dd to mix with other children and make new friends as this little girl will not let my dd play with anybody else
Have you told the school that the girl is physically hurting your child?

Is the school award of the hitting? Can't you ask them to keep your DD separate from the girl-maybe move get to another class of possible?

Sleepingstandingup yes I told the teacher that she physically hits and smacks her if my dd won't play with her and the teacher said she will keep a close eye on her

I will ask the teacher to move my dd to another class.