I'm at a loss.
DD hasn't been to school again today. I'm waiting on her pastoral support worker to call me back but it's going to be a tough one to deal as it's not just one bully or even people she knows.
She came home sobbing last night, adamant that she is never leaving the house again. People she didn't know had been shouting 'lesbo' at her. School kids and also people old enough to drive (who she called adults but it could have been older teens)
She refuses all counselling. She also talks a lot about dying and suicide which terrifies me but I can't force help on her. She self harms and goes through phases of not eating for days, sometimes weeks at a time. Her weight at, is normal.
I've tried CAHMS, I've been to the GP. There is nothing anyone will do for her unless she wants help or becomes ill enough to be sectioned.
In the past, I've always told her things will change when she gets to college. People will grow and mature and realise what tossers they've been and feel ashamed of how they treat her. She'll meet people who are like her (emo, bisexual and into anime and gaming) but now it's 'adults' joining in I don't know what to advise.
I really struggle to get into that mindset, to understand their motivations. Like what kind of grown man finds pleasure in humiliating a teenage girl? Don't they have their own shit to worry about?
On the one hand, I envy them. I have college, I have a job, I have kids and an elderly dog, I have relatives who depend on me, I don't have time to go cruising the streets seeking out people to insult at the same time, I pity them. Can't they read? Don't they have a job or a hobby or money to go to the pub? What kind of sad, pathetic life must they lead to find tormenting young girls entertaining? If I had that kind of time on my hands, I'd read a book or take the kids out for the day.
How do I advise DD on dealing with them other than ignore them and pity them? How the fuck am I supposed to help her? I feel like I'm sat here waiting for her to kill herself and there's nothing I can do about it.