Bullying now the teachers are targeting my child

[Amelia1991]

Hi all,

I don't want to bore you all but I need advice basically my daughter was being bullied, and this was going on for some weeks. I went into school for almost a week and a half straight to try and sort it I also between that time tried to talk to the head who was apparently always busy.
So I took my daughter out of school for 2 days I called the council who took note and contacted social services and education welfare, I haven't heard from them at all which is frustrating. I then got a call from the school saying they have got me a meeting with a teacher who is also a governor one morning so I went to the meeting and she basically said my daughter was a liar and she was the bully, my daughter in these weeks of being bullied got hit on the head with a tennis racket which left a nasty bump and I was not informed of this by the school. The teacher then said my daughter had lied about it and that she had looked through first aid notes and it was not there, but I have spoken to a lunch time supervisor to have a look for me and she said it was. So I have been lied to about what happened and it concerns me. I am so angry with the school. Anyway I sent my daughter back after the 2 days off because the headteacher was really intimidating and was trying to make me out as a bad parent for keeping her off, but I'm worried about my child's safety and the council advised this also.
But since she has been back she has been told off each day because apparently she has been doing stuff to the people who were bullying her, and also had a comment off a teacher saying don't go home lying to your mum, and also a comment off the head teacher saying no more lies...
I have a meeting with the head tomorrow and she has only given me this because I sent an email demanding one.
I feel the head teacher has a grudge against me because she never speaks to me and always blanks me like I don't exist.
I'm seriously considering moving schools as it isn't fair my daughter has to suffer every day, she is only 7 years old. My kids do not lie especially about things like this so I do believe my daughter.
Also I have had to take my daughter to the doctors because she keeps biting herself and the doctor seemed concerned and said it was most likely out of frustration and stress because of what is going on.
Any advise?

I am sure someone with better advice than I can give will be along shortly. Howeber my daughter is going through similar with her six year old son, he's been punched, hit, tripped up, called names. Some of these incidents were witnessed by a teacher yet whenever my daughter goes into discuss it with his teacher the teacher always turns it round and is negative about him. The result of him not being believed is he doesn't want to go to school now. My daughter is sick of it and is going in to see the head after the holidays. It's the last day of term tomorrow.

Bullying and being bullied often cross over. It is a very complex issue. At 7 your daughter may feel she is being bullied but not understand the consequences of some of her actions.

I would listen to what the school have to say with an open mind and then review the situation.

Well the teacher could have looked for the first aid form and not seen it I suppose. There can be a complete lack of communication between lunchtime staff and teaching staff.

I'd seriously look into
a) which teachers are involved class teacher/ teaching assistant and/ or others
b) is there a remote chance your daughter won't be exposed to these people the following academic year
c) is the school big enough to have a head of year as well as deputy head- if yes, seek a meeting with them
d) don't go alone, take your partner, mum,... (anyone who knows your child well) to any meetings- it's great for backup/ whiteness of what is said
e) point out, that what ever happened, the school does have a "duty of safeguarding and care" towards your daughter
f) if you fail at points a & b, look for a different school!

P.S. we had teacher problems with DS in reception, she constantly picked on him, made out he was disruptive and even "had to remove him from the class" in accordance to school policy! All b- s!
Got to a stale mate situation with her & head of year, over the issues.
Has a different teacher in y 1and suddenly the sun shines out of his backside- for her, he can't do wrong! 😱

I understand that my daughter may not exactly be getting bullied but obviously what is going on with this boy is making her very upset to the point it is affecting her emotionally to the point I have had to take her to the doctors. What concerns me is the lies from the school and the comments said from the teachers I know exactly what teachers are involved

Yes the can be blurred lines with young children - however

They need to offer support to her emotionally and teach her coping skills - or emotional or social skills

I'm not suggesting for a minute this is her doing no 7 year old wants to be in this position - but she is in a situation she needs help getting out of

LOL at the school policies and start referring to them

Email meeting note and keep a record - ask them to review and feed back

I hope you get hell tomorrow