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Another child keeps hurting my son

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CigarsofthePharoahs · 20/10/2015 16:58

My son started reception this year. All was going well, he has some friends, but mentioned one afternoon that another child had hit him.
Last week the same child cornered him on the play equipment after school and started kicking him. I stopped it, but my son was very shaken. He has some small bruises and has been rather wary going to school since.
I did report what happened and the teacher said they were aware of the other child having some issues and had put some procedures in place.
Today my son came home in a bit of a bad mood, wouldn't talk to me for a while. I noticed he had a red mark on his face and he said that the same child had kicked him in the face.
I'm getting annoyed about this. DS said he told a teacher what happened, but I was not informed at pick up. I guess I'll have to talk to his teacher tomorrow but I'd like some advice.
What can I expect them to do?

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AbeSaidYes · 21/10/2015 23:35

What did the parent of the other child do?

I am experiencing similar things, though not this extent of violence so interested in what anyone else has had to say.

My son told me tonight that next time it happens he's going to fight back but I really don't want that to happen.

I do think talking to the teacher is a good idea, also being there to let your son know you are taking his feelings seriously and telling him to speak out loudly about what is happening.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 22/10/2015 06:56

The other parent did nothing.
I spoke to my sons teacher yesterday and it seems to be an issue at playtime now. I'm not going to write the full details as it's quite identifying, but there have been incidents of kicking and pushing.
It's odd, my son was at first very terrified of this child and now he seems calm about it, as if he's just accepted what's happening as ok.
I want to scream that it's not ok! He doesn't have to put up and shut up!
Still, his class teacher is on the case, has spoken to my son and his friends who have all told the same story and she said that she is raising the issue with the head of early years learning with the school. She said I am welcome to request a meeting with them myself if I am not happy.
Given that it's nearly half term I'm going to hold fire for now, but if the incidents continue and my son comes home with any more marks or bruises then I will press the matter.

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CigarsofthePharoahs · 22/10/2015 09:07

Thanks for your response, Abe.
I had another chat with my sons teacher today and the decision from the head of Early Years learning is that the child who's been acting up is staying inside for playtime for the time being. Today is the last day before half term, and as yet I don't know what the plan will be going forwards, but at least my son and his friends can have playtime today without feeling stressed and scared.
I have to admit I'm feeling a bit torn by it. It does seem horribly unfair that this child misses his playtime, but the teacher said that as they can't monitor him 100% of the time in the playground they're left with no other options, especially as there seems to be some sort of incident on an almost daily basis. It isn't just my son he's been going for, but he does seem to be getting the worst of it.
I hope your sons school take thing seriously Abe, it's a weight off my mind knowing that something is being done.

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AbeSaidYes · 22/10/2015 12:01

It's horrid isn't it.

As a first time parent of a school child I don't want to be all PFB about my son but I still need to know he's doing OK.

We had another incident today, with the same child (and another who my son doesn't know) swinging him about and hurting his knee and palms on the floor. The teachers have said nothing to me at all and over all my son seems ok but I will be bringing it up at parents evening, just to ask how they are handling it.

My instinct is to empower my son to speak out but not fight back, but I do think the teachers have a close eye on it as they have separated kids from each other at times.

Like you I am waiting until after half-term but I do tell my son every night that i am always there to listen if he has any worries or new things to tell me about school.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 22/10/2015 14:48

I was told by my sons teacher that anything that happens needs to be logged, as it helps them make a plan for the future. If I were you I'd list incidents and take pictures of injuries and talk to the teacher either the same afternoon or the following morning of every incident. Insist everything is logged.
If you think the teacher isn't handling it very well, ask to speak to head of Early Years or the Head Teacher if you have to. Our kids need to know they'll be kept safe and the other kids need to know this sort of thing isn't acceptable.
Hope things improve for you.

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