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DS being bullied at new school - please help me articulate the issue!

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RainyAfternoon · 17/09/2015 21:45

We have just moved overseas for two years and our two DCs (8 and 6) have just started at a semi international school (half English language, half local). So they have a lot of readjusting to do and it's not particularly easy for them.

We've tried to support them as much as possible but unfortunately DS (6) has come up against a couple of kids at school who have hit him a few times. I mentioned this to the teacher who said she would keep an eye on DS, but this afternoon DS told me that two boys pinned him down today in the playground and took it in turns to kick him. One of the boys is one of the ones that hit him last week. He didn't tell a teacher, I imagine because of the language barrier.

I am going to try to speak to the teacher tomorrow, but need to be clear what I am going to say as I'm not fluent in the language and I'm not sure of the stance on bullying here. Can anyone help me? Im struggling to articulate why two children kicking DS feels so much worse than one hitting him. I really want to nip this in the bud. DS has enough to cope with right now without worrying about being set upon in the playground.

Also, he's told me who it is - is it okay to name the boy to the teacher?

Thank you!

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Idefix · 18/09/2015 17:26

Rainy I hope the meeting went ok. Perfectly ok to name the children involved. I would be expecting the school to take action and it would be appropriate for you and ds to know what was said the other boys and what plan is put in place if it continues.
All schools should have policies on bullying, but I know from families where I am based it is a reason cited for moving children to new schools or boarding schools. I am based in Europe.
Hope this gets sorted and doesn't spoil you adventure of living somewhere foreign.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 18/09/2015 18:55

Can you state the language? Maybe someone could help you translate on paper? Or maybe a bilingual friend?

Saltedcaramel4 · 19/09/2015 09:18

Yes name the boys.

Keeping an eye is not enough. See the head of it happens again.

Is there anyone who could help you translate

CocktailQueen · 19/09/2015 09:24

Could you use google translate? Or take a friend with you? Yes, name the boys concerned. Hope it goes well.

RainyAfternoon · 03/10/2015 14:26

Hi - sorry not to come back to this before. We wrote an email to the head and he took it very seriously. Spoke to DS to get the full story and then spoke to the boys concerned. He then addressed the whole class and then phoned us at home with a big apology from the school, so I'm really happy that they took it seriously, and it seems to have done the trick. No more trouble and DS seems happy. Thanks for your advice - I'm seriously trying to get my language up to speed as quickly as I can to help with this type of thing!

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pilates · 04/10/2015 08:50

So pleased with the outcome for you. I do believe these things need to be nipped in the bud.

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