I'm mum to a very gorgeous 8 year old. We are not white british and we are brown skinned and Muslim but not as such practicing. Divorced I've come to live in a many white british area because it was close to my work.
We have lived here since my DS was in reception and now he is in year three. From day one of living here I have felt unwelcome. I have done a lot to make sure my son has some social life. The usual way is that I always invite children over at my house, I say hello to people when I see them, chat briefly whenever I can. But my son does not get invited back, if I don't say hello no one will say hello to me, infact people make it a point to pass by me and say hello to anyone standing alongside. Recently during parent teacher meeting the teacher told me that my son wasn't very confident in class as he does not really have much social contact with children outside of school.
I then started again to invite more new children over to my house and as usual when it came to inviting my son to their houses, there was always an excuse. This is a recent episode and it is bothering me a lot hence im awake at 1am in the morning writing this post. My son wanted to invite this boy, lets call him -Heath over to our house because he says he likes him and they are starting to be friends.
When I saw heaths mum after school with heath I asked them if they'd like to come over for tea, heath's reaction was 'yay!' but his mum went well I don't know heath is pretty busy so I said take my number and let me know when he is available or i'll text you when I am available and we'll arrange a play date.
she texted me her number, after two days I texted her my dates, she replied that she will reply within a week. A week went past no reply so when I saw her at school I asked her and she said ok first day of summer holiday and I said 10 am in the morning is ok and she said yes great.
Now after this she has had second thoughts and said she'd like to meet in the park rather than my house, I asked why and the answer was because she did not want to bring all her kids to my house as they will all play in the park, it felt like an excuse so I said why after play you can have tea at mine, he reply as expected was aggressive - she said they did not meet anyone out of school and there was no need for food. That was the only time she had on that day as her step daughter has a birthday.
Now it is clear that she does not want to come to my house but I can't leave it alone. Whatever she has said is a lie. Her son does have friends he goes to and so does she. I'm sick and tired but most of all, how do I continue this to happen to my son, how do I let his tiny spirit being crushed time and again my reckless people. I feel so upset. Please if you have been though anything like this, if you have a solution other than to ignore it, let me know. I' at the brink of confronting this woman and having a shouting match.