My 8 year old dd is being bullied, intimidated and isolated by one girl

[singlesoul85]

Hi,

I am going to meet with my year 3 dd teacher again on Tuesday ne t week. I am concerned that a particular girl is making my daughters life a misery. We moved to our town last May and dc started new school. Dd had to sit next to this girl. It strikes me that she is controlling and jealous, she has physically hurt my dd and although dd avoids playing with her, she is coming over to who she is playing with and whispering things about dd to them in front of her. She told dd that she wouldn't be her friend if dd played with anybody else, and within the group said "you aren't coming to my party anymore cause you're going soft on so and so". Then Friday she said "you have a tiny head and a small brain, that's why you're in the first table in everything but reading". Just so mean!

My daughter wants to go back to her old school 45-60 mins away or leave this one (not really possible as son enjoys it) I need this dealt with. What can be suggested to the teacher to stop this girl being so nasty.

I have the mothers number as I had girl at
DD's party before this began last October (where she made my daughter cry!), I really want to phone her up!

You might want to contact MNHQ to edit, if that was your DD's name.
For yr4 can your DD be moved into a class without the problem girl?

Would something like this help? internationalelfservice.co.uk/international-elf-service/handling-bullies-the-bully-jar/

I had something similar happen with dd1 in year 2 to 4. The other girl was controlling and wouldn't let my dd play with any other children. Teachers were aware of it. But it wasnt until one particular teacher got involved and resolved it for my dd by keeping a tight eye on what was happening. Also talking to the other girl about friendships and getting the other mum involved too. It was a long haul. I spent a lot of time trying to buoy up my dd.
Don't call the other mum. I was friendly with the other mum but it was better the teacher handled it.

Yes deffo get the teacher involved - it's important they're aware and nip things in the bud as and when they occur during the school day. I'm sorry for your DD :(

Hi
First try to speak to her teacher bcz she need to be involved , she can speak to her parents if nothing with all this help your DD ,then the governors body can help a lot
Wishing luck

whatever you do , do not phone the mother!
that is my best advice, really.
Speak to the teacher and take things from there.

Any joy?

Don't phone the mum. I always speak to the head/ senior staff because they can make sure that all the playground staff know the situation. I'm a dinnerlady and never speak to the class teacher.