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Adolescent sexual bullying?

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happymoocow · 02/03/2015 18:22

Is this a real thing? I ask myself...

I find myself asking this question as today I have learnt that after my poor 13 year old daughter who has been subjected to both verbal (suggestive, provocative language), and physical bullying through stroking and unwanted touching, for a prolonged period of time, has to have the boy in question back in the classroom with her. The boy in question has also, in my opinion been "let off" with one days suspension and the right to return to HER classroom. I am beside myself that in this day and age anyone can consider this accceptable. For goodness sake what does this teach the boy about acceptable behaviour around women. My DD is a quiet, unassuming child who hasn't yet discovered makeup or boys, so perhaps this has made her an easy target for this boy's unwanted attention, but when she does find the courage to speak out the actions of her school would appear to say "accept the apology, it's OK". Not sure of next steps, the police is certainly one but I do not feel this will do either child much good, particularly my DD. I feel the boy needs a professional referral but the school feel they can cope. No policy in place surrounding this type of bullying which is why I wonder if it is even recognised.

Anyway, had to get this off my chest as feel so let down, would do very sad "smiley" face, but not in the mood.

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MadameSin · 03/03/2015 12:04

You need to monitor the situation very closely and if he so much as touches her or continues the sexual verbal bullying, I would involve social services/police and inform the school that you are doing so. What you have to ask the HT is this ... would it be acceptable for 2 members of their staff to be behaving in this way in the staff room? Would it be ok if one of their male teachers started harassing and touching a female colleague? Would it be ok if this unwanted attention had been going on for a while and the victim (cos that is what she is) felt unable to tell anyone? The answer would obviously be 'NO!", so there is absolutely no difference in that scenario and your daughters and therefore, if this had happened in the work place, the perpetrator could face prosecution as a result of their inappropriate actions. He is 13 years old an answerable, by law, to any unlawful behaviours, so YES , this is a very real thing - end of. Good luck!

Emochild · 12/09/2015 20:29

I know this is an old thread but it is a real thing and my dd is also a victim

School says nothing can be proved so can't exclude the boy

A shake up of classes this year means they are in the same class for some subjects and dd is just expected to deal with it

I've got her on the waiting list of a couple of other schools but she doesn't want to move and I don't think she should have to but school don't appear to want to deal with it

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