Meeting with DH over 'bullying' .....

[MadameSin]

Long story short but ... my ds aged 11 (yr7) was being cyber bullied by a boy at his school last October. We blocked him from any access via social media and DS's phone as he got a text that was rather unsavoury as well. We know the child from outside school ie: rugby club and he lives in next road to us. Ds thought it would be a good idea to befriend him as they were starting same senior school together. Since starting the other lad has been dishing out low level verbal stuff e.g.: comments like fatty, retard, gay and same on the both school and club rugby pitches. Our advice has been to ignore him hoping it would go away .. However, here we are 5 months later and it continues. We just can't work out why he's doing it. My ds is fairly non aggressive and although his big brother has advised him to give him a punch on the nose (cough, cough), he would never be able to bring himself to act in that way at the moment, but I'm also worried he will lose it with this lad and do just that. He has been very, very happy in his new school, but at half term he made a comment about no wanting to go back and my heart sank. I asked him why and he said he wanted me to talk to school about this boys behaviour towards him. So, here's my questions: I have a meeting with school DH and I'm not sure where to start or what I want them to do about it ... that sounds wimpy, but I've never been in this situation before and as I'm sure they have. I have screen shots of all the cyber stuff and other incidents outside school. I just need them to advise me how to counsel my son in how to deal with it .... any experience out there?

So sorry to hear this.
Take in all of the screenshots that you have. Use the word bullying because it clearly is. Put your concerns and any further incidents also in writing and make sure the school has a copy.
Ask for an update in writing, in a weeks time on what has been done and what will be put in place to stop this happening again.
Going on experience, it's easy to crumble a bit when you're sitting there in the school office so all documented stuff will be helpful. Also refer to the bullying policy of the school if you need to.
I would recommend asking for your ds to be not be in this boys classes. Hopefully then they will go their own ways a bit.

Hope it goes well x

I agree with above. Its hard when u are emotionally involved - dealing with your sons and your own! I would request that the boys parents are contacted about this complaint. As above if u put it in writing as a follow up they have to take it more seriously than a casual chat. Also he maybe on a warning via another complaint .... Does your son have any other good friends to help him through? Sometimes a good natter to know your not alone helps.

Also i printed comments off and posted them to the parents anonously .... guessing he has hundreds of followers! ..... guess what ? It stopped.

Joozy & Mom thanks you for replies. I did meet DH and meeting went really well. He was aware the lad has 'issues' and was not surprised about the information I had nor the screen shots i showed him. He is being monitored and meanwhile he ment with my DS the next day to reassure him he was doing all the right things and they were watching the situation very closely. There was an incident that I was not aware of that the DH told me about at the meeting (my ds hadn't told me!!) involving my ds and the other boy. Apparently the boys parents were informed about it. So, last week the lad shouts off a load of racist abuse at another pupil and is excluded for a day and a half. I will keep an eye on it all but I am in no doubt he is in a process of assessment for special needs and it will be dealt with in the right manner by school. Sad, but had to be done ....