DC1 started a new school about 9 months ago, it is an all-through (i.e. 5-18) boys school dc1 is in year 7. Previously he was at a small lovely school which emphasised kindness and was noticeably 'nicer' and more supportive than the school my other dc attends.
About 1/3 of the children were new to the school.
After about 1 term (maybe less) some of the other boys started to say nasty things to him and shortly after several of his things were stolen (including his bus fare and packed lunch on more than 1 occasion), we mentioned it to his tutor (at the end of a discussion about something else) obviously school was aware about things gong missing since they had to sort him out money for lunch/bus etc we strongly suspect the main bully was doing the stealing. Anyway we don't know if she did anything but main bully has quietened down although his sidekicks have been filling his place.
Pretty much every day now if I ask he tells me of verbal bullying, this term it has spread so that people who were formally among his friendship group are joining in (the latest seems to be that most of his form will groan when he enters the room) some other examples include telling him he should have stayed away for 1000 days (he recently had 2 days off) and them someone else going on to say you would be dead by then and we could all have a party the bullies have prevented him from signing up for things at school as well.
today I asked him if he wanted to leave and he said no he wasn't going to let a bunch of silly people ruin his education however it is obviously pretty depressing to have all this stuff said to you every day.
We have emailed the teacher asking for another meeting.
I have started a written record of who says what when etc
dc is probably best described as 'quirky', I am not sure that he has enough of anything for a diagnosis to stick but probably has some dyspraxia/mild cerebral palsy (I know they are massively different we have had both diagnoses from professionals!!!!) having had some significant postnatal health problems. He is however bright with a high IQ (formally measured by professionals).
The relevance of this is that he reads all the time, is smart, shy not good at mainstream sport and tends to have a couple of good friends rather than be one of the lads.
So I suppose I am asking what kind of response should we expect from the school, and what should we be doing?
I have tried really hard to give him strategies and smart responses but I am not so good on the workings of the male mind!
Thanks of you have got this far.