Talk to teacher or parent?

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Dd is being 'teased' and ostracised by friend at school. It started last week, I have seen this girl do this to other children. I was hoping dd could just ride it out but she felt nervous going to school today. Also, I saw first hand the little girl ignoring her and gathering all the other girls away from her. And am really upset. They are 8. I am good friends with the mother.

I would talk to both, tell the mum that your DD has been a bit upset by her daughter and ask the school to keep an eye on the situation.

Thanks folks, I am ridiculously upset ATM, I am afraid my dd has inherited my over sensitivity! I am v. Hesitant about talking to mother as I can imagine it might make things worse. If dd is upset today I will talk to the teacher.

Always, always go to the teacher about things that are happening in school.

I hope though, OP, that it proves to be storm in a teacup and that things are fine today.

always the teacher, never the parent.

even if she isn't upset today make sure it is on the teacher's radar. They need to know when this stuff is going on so they can nip it in the bud.

Thanks!

At least with boys we can sit down together and have a good old bitch! I am being neutral with dd, lots if ' well x is a good friend etc etc' and discussing self preservation techniques.

Hope your dd is ok maryz.

I am in a similar situation OP. Boy in DS' class has started making snide comments, nothing big or serious but enough to make me hate the child for all time to get me a bit worried. DS isn't too bothered, though, and we've said if it happens again, I'll speak to his mother. She is one of my very best friends, and I can be pretty sure she'll be mortified and do something about it. I reckon if you're friends with the mother, you may be able to guess how she'll react, and act accordingly.

maryz Your poor daughter. I remember that feeling and how cruel teenagers can be, even when they seem so adult. It's bloody horrible. :(

Oh God, I know exactly what you mean about facebook maryZ. I thank my lucky stars that it didn't exist when I was a teen- I would have been mercilessly bullied on it as well as making an utter twat of myself on there, probably.

I know what you mean about boys too, though it hasn't been physical with DS. Thing is, he's in a tiny village school and the four other boys in his class are obsessed with football and fighting. He's just not like that, so I can tell he's going to be left out a lot. The boy who's mean to him has just made little digs- drawing a picture of a weird boy and saying "look, that's

Speak to teacher. You never know, there may be lots of this going on and other parents may have already been in to speak to the teacher too. You are equipping the teacher with information that will help them in the class.

That is a brilliant idea Maryz- Thank you, I'll use it! :)