Would you expect to be told

[ElphabaisWicked]

I found out last night that ds was involved in an incident where a group of older children lifted him up and repeatedly pulled his pants down. I didn't collect him from school the day it happened or yesterday and both nights he was asleep when I got home but his grandparents (who due to me being away during a school trip have been given permission to deal with anything) were not told.

The first I knew about it was a text from a friend apologising as her child was involved on the periphery and they have had a letter home. Ds told his grandparents last night he was very upset about it at the time.

I would expect to be told but my dd was bullied 2 years ago and the first I heard of it was from another parent. I was beyond furious with the school that they had not told me and when I contacted them, they informed me they were aware of the problem and were dealing with it.

I don't know whether this is standard policy for all schools though.

How old is he Elphabais? It sounds horrible.

He is 8 and in Year 3.

I think you need to make an appointment to see the school. It's seems wrong that the children that were doing it get letters home but not the victim.

He has also been having problems with another boy still older but not the same year as these and has basically been told he has to stay away from the older children.

I know he was causing a nuisance a while back with the older girls (wanting to play/hug with dd and her friends etc) but from what I gather and another parents has backed up the story they are following him around.

It's just heartbreaking to hear what's gone on. DS1 had this to a certain extent when he was about 10. The boys were opening the main toilet door while he was having a wee. I just wanted to keep him at home forever.

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Very sad for your poor ds

I'd be furious if the school hadn't told me.

Thats awful, your poor DS. It sounds like the school are taking the incident seriously but they should have contacted you. I would speak to the head on Monday.
I hope he is feeling ok today

Poor lad. The school is wrong in not telling you. I'd be furious.
IME though schools are sadly lacking when it comes to bullying.
The age old 'we're dealing with it' normally means they are hoping it will just stop.
I'd def go and see the Head and ask what steps they have taken to make sure this never happens again.