How can people allow their children to bully others?

[mumofjust1]

I'm not talking about parent who aren't aware, or parents who have tried to stop their children doing it but the child carries on anyway.

I'm talking about parents who are fully aware of what their kids are doing but simply allow it anyway?

My dd (12) has been constantly bullied by various kids but one girl in particular will not stop.

Her mother is aware. I have been to speak to her. The girls tutor has called her mother in and told her, as has head of year and deputy head. The schools police officer has told her mother. The police have been round and told her mother. She does NOTHING.

She told the police officers that went to her home that her child does no wrong (she thinks butter wouldn't melt, po's words)

Every time this child sees my daughter at school, she calls her names - slag, ugly, fat - and makes out that dd has been saying things about her (she hasn't) but can never say who told her or who dd apparently said these things too.

I'm at the end of my tether now.

I have never been called into the school about dd, never had a phone call from the school saying dd has done anything wrong, never had the police at my door because of her.

If I had an inkling that dd had bullied another child I would go bloody mad and she would not do it again.

She's an only child, brought up around adults - no cousins or anything - and has been taught from an early age that bullying is NOT acceptable. She knows my brother was bullied due to a medical condition and knows what it did to him, and now knows first hand what it's like to be bullied.

There are no year 8 places in any other schools either in my area or surrounding areas. I don't know what to do. Apart from handling the bullying badly, the school has failed it's ofsted inspection and is, apparently, on weekly report (not sure what that means)

I'm bloody fed up and just want my dd to be happy.

Sorry for the length of the thread

What a horrid situation. Have you been in touch with the county school inclusion department to see if they can help?

If you'd like to move your daughter have you phoned each school head teacher to check for places - in year admissions are often at heads discretion and county aren't always up to date with numbers.

I hope that someone else can help more.

Thanks ant x

I have spoken to the council in year admissions dept who say there is simply no spaces available. But as you've suggested I will call the schools directly and see what happens.

Nothing to loose I guess, thank you

School inclussions departments are ment to find places for children who are without schooling. As your daughter has been treated in a way that in employment would constitute constructive dismissal she should be found a place as a high priority.

Do you keep a factual diary of your contacts with the school/ parent of bully and incidents? It may help you being heard if in the future you can demonstrate a pattern of events.