I have two DS - this is about my 5 year old in reception He goes to a small school, one form entry, and generally we are happy with the teaching. But I am not happy about what goes on in the playground.
When DS started school back in september, he would often come back home saying that boys were chasing him in the playground and he couldn't play what he wanted because he was being chased all the time. He got over that by 'joining in' the group of boys in question (at that time there were only two of them) and now he is fighting in the playgound, with a small group of boys who split themselves in two groups - badies and goodies! - and the baddies chase the other kids about the play ground constantly. I mean constantly.
DS is often on the side that is being chased and he has been wacked a few times. Headbutted once - big red mark on his face. I am really tired of this beause I have a no hitting or kicking at home - but he does come home hitting his little brother, or hitting us. I know he does it in the playground, and I know that he also gets hit. He said to me the other day 'I can now beat al the boys in my class except NAME.' I don't like him using that language at all. I don't like him fighting. But it seams to me that he can't get away from it and doesn't have any defence and joins in instead of being a 'victim'.
Secondly, there is one boy wh ohas the very bad habbit of calling everyone names. You're a baby, you're a loser, you smelly pants, you po poo head' etc etc. DS is now wacking him in the playground because he is fed up of being called names. I see that first thing in the morning, this morning that other boy called him something (I didn't hear) and DS pushed him. The other boy's mum told my son off, and I was deeply embarassed. But what is DS supposed to do? What do I tell him? How can I encourage him to not react violently if he is called names?
Please I know this is the longest message ever but I need help...