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DD is being mean to others at school

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jzhmum · 05/04/2011 20:10

This is a long story but my step daughter is being nasty to others at school. In feb we had parents eve and were told she upsets others. DH and i delt with this and she promised to be better. 3 weeks later I asked the teacher were things better...she said no. Again we talked to her about how to treat people...now another parent has complained that my DSD is writting nasty things about another child. Again I have been in...not much seems to have been done at the school and I can't seem to get through to her.
I made her write sorry letters to all and called the Mum myself and said sorry.
We have other children here and my own DS has been bullied so she knows how hurtful it is...just not sure what to do..and getting very little help from DH as he is so busy at work and when he talks to her she switches off....help!

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BoattoBolivia · 05/04/2011 20:17

How old is she and is this behaviour new? Can you think about when it started? What jumps out at me from your post is that she is your step daughter and is not getting much attention from her father. Can he make time to spend some quality time just with her, without discussing the behaviour issue? If the only time she sees him, he is lecturing her about behaviour, I am not surprised that she switches off.

jzhmum · 05/04/2011 20:35

She is 8..think you're right she doesn't get much from him but he is a teacher and so sees her all holidays.
Term time she doesn't get much of his time and we had a baby together last year. This problem has been on the go since she came to live with us (two years ago) and had help at school through play therapy. She was in an abusive situation with her mum and came to live with us and my two children and then we had the baby...once the baby was 3 months she stopped the therapy...she was ok for about 6 months and now it has come to light again.
I have told DH not to lecture as it is negitive attention and as a teacher he can't help himself!

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BoattoBolivia · 05/04/2011 21:35

That sound familiar! I'm a teacher and am always being told to leave my teacher head at work!! Sounds to me as though there are deeper issues that have not been cleared up. Can she go back to the therapy?

jzhmum · 06/04/2011 18:33

I think I will talk to school again and see if she can start therapy again! I just want her to be happy x

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