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"gay" as a term of abuse

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isitwineoclockyet · 29/03/2011 16:47

For the second time this year I have just been to speak to my Yr 5 DD's teacher about bullying. I told her that a particular girl makes my daughter's life a misery on a daily basis. The response?

"OK, I'll make sure they don't share a dorm on the school trip. Next?"

I mentioned that the bully repeatedly calls various boys in the class "gaybo" or makes comments like "No one's listening to you anyway because you are GAY" & she said she could not act on my comments, as the comments are not aimed at my child.

Leaving aside the fact that she really doesn't seem to care about the bullying, & has not promised to take any measures to address it (last time I went in she asked me what I expected her to do about it), is it really OK for her to refuse to address offensive/homophobic language, simply because the child bringing it to her attention is not a boy?

I'm stunned. Of course I need to address my daughter's issues, and the fact that the teacher does not appear to be interested in them, but what do people think about her response to the specific issue of calling boys gay as a way of insulting them? Is she right to refuse to act unless a boy complains?

Thanks.

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GypsyMoth · 29/03/2011 17:01

i dont think she is

i have come across this with my own ds,not in school,but home. with an ethnic family calling out 'gay'.....i spoke to the parents and explained its the same as racism and that the police have a specific phone line to call to report homophobic behaviour. they realised,as did the child,and it stopped.

what does the school anti bullying policy say.....surprisingly,some teachers are unaware of what is on the policy and even what bullying is!

isitwineoclockyet · 29/03/2011 17:20

Last time I asked for the anti-bullying policy I got a polite answer machine message from the head to say he'd received my request.... and then nothing. It's time to ask for it again isn't it?

What if the boys it's being aimed at are too embarrassed to tell anyone, for example?

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GypsyMoth · 29/03/2011 17:58

ours is online on school website. yours maybe too

isitwineoclockyet · 30/03/2011 10:15

I can't find it on the website so I've emailed the head. I doubt he'll even bother to respond to be honest...

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