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No period for 20 months, how can I bring it on? Want to TTC

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 09:53

Hi, am feeding 20 month old, until a few weeks ago was on demand, although not during the 3 days when I work. Of course bfeeding can prevent periods so I realised I had to night wean. Have been doing that for a few weeks and although going slower than I'd hoped, it's getting there and I no longer feed her between 8 and 6am. Or in the day now.

I had expected them to come at least by 18 months. When should I go to the doctor? Or is there something I could take to. Will I have to basically stop feeding (really wanted to cut down, but not sure I have the stomach to cut out the nighttime/waking feeds.

Thing is, I had Asherman's before I had my daughter and am a bit scared I may still have scarring (had a section) as the NHS was pretty bloody awful about diagnosis and treatment and I ended up having it abroad. Need to know I'm facing that as at 38 I don't have an awful lot of time on my side.

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 09:55

"Is there something I could take to ... bring them on?" I meant

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slushy · 05/07/2010 10:25

Try a rosemary oil bath, but make sure you wash it off before feeding.

How many feeds does your dd have? You are not likely to continue much longer with no period anyway mine came back about 20months on ds but that seems to be rare and the longest I have heard is 2.6 years.

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 10:48

Hi slushy, she used to feed on demand (every 2 hours although more at night and less in the day and not in the hours I work ( 3 days a week although would ask my husband for it)

For the past month though it's been wound down to three feeds, then two. One at bedtime, one at waking.

I'm feeling the odd twinge down there, but nothing like a period pain. Is that normal?

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slushy · 05/07/2010 10:51

Two feeds a day I doubt you will be much longer without the witch buy some cheap ov packs you may find you are already ovulating and try the rosemary bath (but don't have one after you start TTC)

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 10:53

thanks. Seems so long. All my bf friends had them back after weaning more or less. I feel as if I had transitioned to the menopause

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EightiesChick · 05/07/2010 10:56

Mine restarted after I cut down to the level of feeding you are now at - ie waking and bedtime. So I'd say give it another month or so and then if it's still not arrived seek doctor's advice. I don't know about the rosemary bath thing but there's another suggestion.

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 10:58

Can I ask a silly question? I never did this concerted TTC thing as I was lucky enough after my Asherman's surgery and a year with hormones and a coil in to get pregnant in the second month.

I don't know how to use these things. Shall I just get a load and get weeing?!

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slushy · 05/07/2010 12:00

Ebay sell bunches of 25 for about £5 I have only recently used them myself(ds accident dd first month ttc) to check if I am ovulating Make sure the control line is darker than the test line good luck .

slushy · 05/07/2010 12:03

EightiesChick you can if you know how use rosemary to regulate your cycles as rosemary causes your womb to contract. But my mum was bathing with it while ttc and later found out from a doctor that it was the reason she miscarried .

logrrl · 05/07/2010 13:48

hi-have you name changed? I hate my name and think I might...
I would give it a month or two-once we stopped the night feeds it took me two months for them to return. I understand you feel a sense of urgency but eight weeks is not that long to wait...I had some problems TTC first time round and had to stay away from the pee sticks as I knew I would get even more obsessive about the whole thing...they are not 100% accurate either (according to the fertility clinic here).

Oh and I had no warning that periods would return-it just appeared.

YunoYurbubson · 05/07/2010 13:54

I am in the same boat. Would like to ttc #3 but 27mth old ds just will not give up or even cut down on his bfing.

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 14:25

I have encountered resistence yuno but cutting down was done gently with distraction, chocolate milk (acceptable in these circs I think for me at least) and plenty of lovebombing. It really wasn't as bad as I thought. Nightweaning was a little more tricky but I always caved if her crying went on too long (ie over five mins) or it went from angry to upset. Also her demeanour and behaviour with me and her father has

She's fully conversational and has been for a long time, so she knows 'it's just for beddiebyes' or that 'boobies are resting, filling up'. Doesn't particularly like that they are 'resting' but I think it has helped the transition from more or less feeding round the clock to feeding once or twice.

I just have to think of the bigger picture. The chance of a brother or sister for her and a child for us outweighs my natural inclination to continue feeding on demand.

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otchayaniye · 05/07/2010 14:26

logrrl. Yes, I forgot to change my name back - was dorisbonkers! Just posted one thing about my relationship and was wanting to be a little discreet, but it doesn't matter now. All is well.

Bit of a bad name choice though, it means 'despair' in Russian.

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logrrl · 05/07/2010 21:09

feck - I hope I haven't compromised anything! As for the despair-I hope it's in the past.

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