I have a 6 m.o. DS who's been EBF, although we started BLW this week. DH has been supportive of me bfing and has been keen on the benefits such as health, convenience, cost-effectiveness, helping DS sleep etc.
However, today he told me that he is looking forward to 'having me back' (when I stop bf'ing). He said that while I'm bfing, he feels I'm not available to him in the way I would otherwise be.
I don't think this is because I've been less attentive than before, but because he is very squeamish and hates anything remotely 'biological'. He has been really supportive through pregnancy, birth and bfing, but it all makes him shudder. I think he feels my breasts are 'out of bounds' for him. That's not factually true but it's how me bfing makes him feel IYSWIM.
He's not asked me to stop bfing but I can see it coming at some point, even if not soon. If he really wanted me to stop, I would do so, as I strongly feel that a decision to continue/stop bf should be a family one, not just mine.
However, bfing is pretty important to me and I'd hoped to continue as long as I could. On a practical note, I'm rubbish at understanding when DS is hungry, so bf is great as I don't need to worry about overfeeding him. At night, I don't need to ask myself whether he's waking with hunger or not, as I can just get on and feed him.
DS isn't a great sleeper, and I feed him to sleep at bedtime and the 2 or 3 times he wakes at night. I bf to sleep for naps when rocking doesn't work, which does happen as I'm rubbish at reading his tired signs and he can quickly go into a meltdown. I worry that if I couldn't bf to sleep, it could be a lot more traumatic all round (DH is pro-controlled crying, I'm not).
Any suggestions on how I might be able to help DH feel a bit more positive?
TIA