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BF 4 month old - maid of honour at wedding

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jerry21 · 28/06/2010 19:08

Ds2 will be 4 months old when the wedding takes place, am maid of honour and he won't be present at the wedding.
He has top ups as he is a hungry baby by mainly breastmilk, will take a bottle no problem, I know I can express for him but would I have to express through the day to keep the milk going iyswim?? My milk was slow to come in at the beginning and am worried if I stop through the day it will start to dry up? This might be a daft question, but I'm quite new to this, didn't bf first time round, any advice appreciated.
Thanks in advance

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3sweetpeas · 28/06/2010 19:36

Hi, I would think it would be impossible for your milk to dry up in one day, prob more likely that you will end up feeling very full & desperate to express/feed your baby.I really don't think you need to worry!

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jerry21 · 28/06/2010 19:50

Hi,

I know it would sound daft, just don't want my supply to shorten in any way as it sometimes isn't enough as it is!!!
I also wondered if I had a glass of wine, how long would I have to wait before I could feed? I am new to this, again any advice would be welcome?
Thanks again

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3sweetpeas · 28/06/2010 19:58

Hi, What makes you think you dont have enough usually ? Is your baby crying for more or do you just think you feel empty? I never drank when feeding so i'm not sure but I think it's around 24hrs but please check!

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jerry21 · 28/06/2010 20:02

I have to top him up with formula as he is a hungry baby, he feeds well but sometimes squirms towards the end of a feed, he will take a little top up. My supply has improved from the beginning but still not enough for him sometimes.
I'm not planning to drink a lot, just maybe a glass of wine with the meal. But its probably not worth it just for one. Will chack and see.
Thanks for that.
xxx

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jollyma · 28/06/2010 20:03

I wouldn't worry about a day, i'd agree that you'll probably feel very full by the end of the day if you dont get a chance to express. Could you have ds brought along to the wedding half way through the day to have a quick feed?

If you dont express or feed you may get a bit leaky, have a look at buying some lilypads breast pads. They are like silicon shells that stick to your breasts and are invisible under clothes but stop leakages. I got mine from toys r us and although i wouldn't wear them every day they were fab for special occasions

One glass of wine shouldn't cause any probs. Enjoy the wedding.

sheeplikessleep · 28/06/2010 20:04

i thought alcohol was about an hour or two to work its way out of your system? and that as long as you are fit to drive, then you're okay to feed?

i could be wrong

3sweetpeas · 28/06/2010 20:21

Hi,
I'm sure you know your own body but you may be worrying that he's not full when he's fine,if you let him keep sucking he will stimulate milk production anyway. How much does he take from the bottle after a BF ?
Don't be put off having a drink. I'm sure you can work around it x

MumNWLondon · 28/06/2010 20:49

Take your breastpump to the wedding and express the milk if you feel full. Couple of drinks are fine, even more ok if you don't feed for a few hours afterwards. So if you want to drink a lot just pump and dump the milk.

I have lilypads, they are great but wouldn't stop leaks if I was really full.

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jerry21 · 28/06/2010 21:19

Hi

I thought of the leaking problem, have had a few embarrassing times when i've leaked through the pads, not sure if that would be a good look on the dress!! Will have a look for the lilypads, thanks.
Not planning to drink a lot, just wasn't sure how long to wait until feeding again. I will express enough for the day, then will be here for the midnight feed. Might need to take the pump tho and sneak off at some point to relieve the milk through the day. I'm just a bit worried as well as lo prefers boob for going to sleep, he takes a bottle well but think its a comfort thing for him at night. Anyone had this? How did you get lo to settle with dad, granny etc.
Thanks for all the replies and advice

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Morloth · 28/06/2010 21:52

Squirming is fine you know, when my babies did this I just swapped boobs (sometimes they would have both 2 or 3 times in the same sitting etc).

Take a pump just so you can relieve any pressure build up (or if you can do it by hand even better, though I never managed the knack).

I have a drink every now and again whilst breastfeeding it is fine.

I usually settle baby to sleep with a BF but DH manages without one, DS doesn't expect DH to be able to do that so he take comfort the way they are offering it.

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jerry21 · 28/06/2010 22:00

I offer both boobs at each feed and try to swap again but sometimes he is still looking for more! Sometimes that is enough but now and again he needs the top ups. He is putting on weight fine so I know he must be getting enough, just a very hungry baby! DS1 was a hungry baby too, although he wasn't breastfed.
I tried hand expresing but I can't do it either, so pump it is!!
DH tries to settle him at night, but he won't settle until he is with me, maybe have to persevere a bit more with it. He doesn't need a bf every time to go to sleep, have fed him and then tried Dh to put him to bed. But someimes just give in so lo isn't upset and so I can get some much needed sleep

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FakePlasticTrees · 28/06/2010 22:06

I was told if you're fit to drive, you're fit to bf.

why won't DS been at the wedding? Can't someone else have him there so you can feed when he needs it but not be responsible the rest of the time so you can focus on Maid of Honour role?

take lots of breast pads and possibly an emergancy dress incase leakage ruins the proper dress. (Warn bride this could be a possiblity, although probably not before photos!)

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jerry21 · 28/06/2010 22:15

It would be so much easier if he was there, DH is coming with DS1 (7) and baby was going to stay with my mum as he is still so little. I know it wouldn't be a problem for DS2 to come but DH and I agreed it would maybe be better for him to stay with my mum for the day. Have to re-think that one!!!
Emergency dress may be a good idea, and double up on the pads!! Can just imagine the photos, and there's me with two damp patches down my front, don't think that would be too flattering!!!

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jollyma · 29/06/2010 06:36

Mine have both been particular about me putting them to bed but if i'm not there they just seem to accept it and settle with no problems. I always said to babysitters that if i come home and ds2 is asleep in the buggy thats fine. He is very heavy and settled well with a little walk.

As long as you are prepared it'll be lovely having a 'day off'. Take some photo's of yourself in the dress with the pads in before the wedding to check if they show, you'll be embarrassed if you can see them in the photo's, thats why i suggested the lilypads. I agree that they may not do the trick if you are very full. Maybe you could find a matching wrap to put around you if you leak, just so you dont worry about it.

snowdropz · 29/06/2010 06:48

Well my baby was feeding every 2 1/2 hours at 4 months - probably a growth spurt ... it would be so much easier if your baby was there, easily done if the wedding is in a hotel venue - and maybe your mum could come and take care of the little one and you can pop in to comfort / feed??

However you may well enjoy the day off.

mrsbuggywinkle · 29/06/2010 07:08

With drinking, opinions differ but look here. Generally, a couple of drinks every now and again are not a problem.

I agree that by four months one day would not make too much difference in terms of your supply, but you will get engorged if you don't pump (obviously you also don't want to risk blocked ducts/mastitis!). You could use a pump, but if you prefer you could simply hand express until you are comfortable.

Probably the easiest thing to do would be to have your baby nearby (having your Mum in a hotel room if the wedding is in a hotel seems to work well for lots of Mums!), but it is perfectly possible to manage it either way.

mama25 · 29/06/2010 16:38

Thanks everyone for your advice.
The ceremony is not in a hotel but the meal/reception. Have spoke to DH, decided the easiest thing was to go to the ceremony. then have mum drop of DS2 at meal, as DH will be there to help take care of him anyway, and he will probably love all the attention. Then mum can pick him up for bedtime, although will have to try leaving him with her to see if he settles.She looked after him for a couple of hours a few weeks ago around bedtime to let me get some rest as Dh was away working, and he wouldn't settle at all.
Good idea Jollyma about taking pics before wedding to see if you can see the pads, won't be able to wear any of my normal nursing bras due to style of dress. Will give that a try!
Thanks again girls

mama25 · 29/06/2010 16:40

Sorry, changed my name from jerry21 to mama25 in case you were wondering who that last post was from!!

mrsbuggywinkle · 29/06/2010 22:13

Sounds like you have something that will work for you!

Enjoy the wedding

mama25 · 30/06/2010 21:58

Thanks mrebuggywinkle, also for the drinks advice, had a look and the advice was really helpful!! xx

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