I know this has been covered before but I really don't know what to do. I've already made my excuses for the hen do (2 nights in Brighton - I'm in Midlands). I'm fine leaving dds1&2 but dd3 will be 9 months and I will still be feeding her.
I know it's still a long way off and she'll be eating solids by then, but she is such a boob monster, plus I'm planning on BLW so there's no guarantee by then she'll be on 3 good meals by then.
I could express some and risk it, my mum will be happy to have her for the day, but it's in York so it's a good 1-1.5hour drive even if I come home after the do.
I just can't imagine leaving her for that long, she won't really go to anyone else and only goes to sleep on my boob, plus we co-sleep so I don't really see how it will work. I will just spend the whole day miserable and wanting to be at home. My mum tends to have the 'let her cry' opinion too so that wouldn't help my state of mind!
If she was a newborn I would have no probs going to my friend and asking if it was ok to bring dd along. But I don't think she will get that my 9 month old requires me as much as she did when she was tiny. She has no kids and doesn't really get it. Plus I told her before I had dd that she shouldn't feel bad about not inviting kids if she didn't want to (didn't expect to be quite so successful at bf!).
What would you do? I really want to go, don't want to make friend feel awkward, but really can't see how I can leave dd at home...