Well I have now weaned both my children at once, what do I do with all the milk I am still producing?

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I am hand expressing a little bit just to relieve the pressure, and get rid of all the lumpy bits , but should I express the lot? Or will the remainder just be re-absorbed?

I am really worried about mastitis, I have had this a lot.

I don't own a pump or I would be tempted just to get rid of all of it.

It is the first time in 3 and a half years I have not breastfed .

It will be reabsorbed, but if you're susceptible to mastitis, it may be better to express regularly for the next little while.

Did they both stop suddenly?

It sounds like you have some mixed feelings about weaning?

Would you consider pumping for hospital stores (sorry, don't know the correct terminology)? I think they'd probably provide you with a pump and you'd be able to decrease gradually?

Sell it on Gumtree

I fed both of them in the morning and DD in the night sometimes. I didn't realise there would be a problem with this amount of feeding.

I DO have mixed feelings about it, I have worries about how I will parent without breastfeeding, as I have never had to do it.

I stopped it though - I felt it was the right time to stop with DS, in fact I wish I had stopped earlier (he is 3.6). DD is 20 months and I am maybe/hoping to ttc next year and would really like some time where I am not breastfeeding or pregnant. Selfishly I want my boobs to get smaller .

I feel guilty and relieved in equal measure.

They don't have a milk bank here sadly.

Also I DO want it to stop, just as safely and sensibly as possible.

Sorry - it was reference to a story mentioned on here about a woman selling breast milk on Gumtree!

Forgot to thank NQC for the information, cheers.

Hmmm, the normal 'safe' way to do it is to cut one feed per day, per week. Of course that often isn't the way that mothers and babies want to stop!

Cut down slowly, watch out for lumps, and be sure to massage them lots if they come.

Nothing wrong with wanting some time with nobody sucking nourishment out of you, one way or another!

I was only doing one feed a day - although both sides at once. DD only fed in the night sometimes, that is why I am surprised to be so engorged now.

One feed of two children at the same time seems like two feeds to me - it sounds like they must have got quite a bit.

Are you still engorged? It may take quite a few days to calm down ...

Still rather uncomfortable - my last feed was Monday night. Thought it would have calmed down by now, but am sure it will happen soon.

It is strange not to be breastfeeding any more!
DS has not mentioned it once, DD has had a few attempts but has been easily diverted by some cake..

Each time I have stopped I cut out one feed per day every three days. As I have stopped each time when I went back to work, I needed to start my stopping feeding three days before I went back to work as there were 2 feeds during work hours.

If you are engorged and don't have a pump and don't want them to feed try and squeeze out as much as you can in the bath. Or ask your DP to help!

It doesn't get reabsorbed, both times have left them have one last feed about 2 weeks after stopping.