Almost 2 and a bf addict!

[BorgLady]

Hello all!

DS will be two in July and I am still demand feeding him. He eats his other food well, but his bf is a massive source of comfort for him. He asks for it every time he gets the slightest bit upset, or tired or pretty much anything.

I love bf, intended to carry on until he was two, but at the moment, I don't see how I will ever be able to stop without weeks of horror for all concerned, and I don't want that for any of us.

All his friends have long since stopped, but he has barely even cut down. I probably feed him five or six times a day, plus at night as he doesn't sleep through yet.

I'm getting married at the end of August and was thinking about trying for baby #2 afterwards.

Is it ridiculous to contemplate tandem feeding? My DP thinks I am mad and that DS is getting a bit old.

I would welcome thoughts on my predicament.

Perhaps gently weaning him would be best. If you're feeding him 6 times a day start by cutting out one feed for a few days then 2, then 3 etc.

On the other hand there is nothing wrong with what you're doing so if you want to carry on and you think you can manage then carry on.

I think if it was down to me, I would leave DS to self wean. After being initially not that bothered about bf, I am a total convert and I love it.

I am starting to feel the social pressure, though. I'm less happy feeding in public now, and even my mum (who bf my sister til she was two) has been saying that perhaps I ought to give up now.

My DP has been very supportive, but has been having digs about it lately, mostly I think because he wants me to get a job.

I worry about my own motivations too, I'm not good at much, but I have been great at breastfeeding. Perhaps I just want to feel good at something for longer?

I don't know anyone that tandem feeds, all the mums from my bf group have all stopped feeding now and their babies all gave up willingly. I keep hoping that will happen to DS, that the decision will be taken out of my hands, but I really don't think it will be.

Oh dear.

My ds was Like this I started Giving him a cup of milk after two during the day and continued his night feeds and he self weaned at about 2yr 9mths.

I got all the funny stares two but bugger them you are doing what is best for your baby and I think it is terrible when society forces us to do something that is not the best for baby but socially acceptable. If you are happy still feeding then don't stop. Well done BTW

have you looked at 'kellymom'
lots of extended bf'ders on there.

i dont think you are mad to contemplate tandem feeding, have heard it can be pretty sore at times, but having fed one to age 2, i think youll manage!

follow your instincts, dont let others sway you, mum knows best!