Should I cut down feeds at 10.5 months?

[SuperAmoo]

hi all. DD2 is 12 days off 11 months and she is still nursing to get to sleep which I don't mind so much because it makes life easy in some ways but I'm thinking she is getting too much milk and food now. She feeds at 10am before a two hour nap in the morning and then at 4 before an hour nap in the afternoon. Then again both sides at 7.30 to get to sleep at night. Then sometimes wakes up at 10pm when I come to bed and has another quick feed to get back to sleep. Then she wakes twice during the night usually 1 and 4am for feeds. Should I be taking the initiative now and start replacing feeds with snacks during the day and teaching her how to get to sleep without booby? (how the hell do I do that?!!!)

I was thinking that by 14/15 months she'll be down to 1 nap anyway so only one feed during the day and then a feed in the evening. Then maybe I could start being harsh at night and not letting her feed. Sorry going on abit. Just want to know who knows best really? Me or baby?!!! I always fed her on demand and did baby lead weaning so it seems wierd to take charge now!

if you're happy to still feed on demand, then do so - it's said that you cannot overfeed a breastfed baby!
however, maybe night weaning would be a good solution for you? I have no idea how to go about it, as my DS (7.5 months) still feeds 2-3 times/night, but since I'm working during the day, I don't begrudge him it too much. I've heard about offering water instead of breast at night wakings, as well as getting your DH to settle her - maybe worth a try?

I can't use DP to help with night weaning as he has MS and can't be disturbed at night. So that's why I've persevered with night feeds. I'm not really that bothered at the moment, but I didn't want to carry on if it would be harder to get her to stop later if you see what I mean. I wasn't sure whether to carry on as she will gradually stop of her own accord. Or put my foot down now because I'm creating a monster???

Just go with her if you are happy. She is a baby and you are meeting her needs. All too soon she will self wean and you will miss it (believe me). Just carry on as you are. Remember that breastfeeding is not just about food. It is about providing her with protection against illnesses and most importantly giving her comfort.