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8 Monther self-weaning BF, any advice?

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TeaandCake · 01/05/2010 22:53

My nearly 8 month old DS2 has recently become v difficult to BF. He often refuses to BF and gets upset and squirms away.

As a newborn he was very 'suckey' so I introduced a dummy at about 4 weeks (the alternative was to sit for hours with a little finger inserted!). He is now totally in love with the dummy and prefers it to feeding, he uses it to settle and only when he is all but fast asleep can I atempt to start feeding. This would be OK except I know he is taking less milk because my breasts still feel quite full after the feed. He is also not v keen on EBM either, he used to take the occaisional feed from a NUK or Avent bottle but not anymore.

Exclusively BFing went fairly well with only a couple of problems (2 v short-lived feeding strikes)for the first 6 months but the trouble seems to have started since weaning.
He eats 3 good sized solid meals a day and is a happy wee soul otherwise.

He also gets up once in the night for a feed which usually goes down without any problems.

Would there be any mileage in ditching the dummy altogether? It would be v difficult for a week or two but if he eventually fed better as a result surely it would be worthwhile?

DS1 was BF until he was 22 months with no problems at all, I'd just like to get to 12 months with DS2 and am gutted at the thought of BF not working out (not to mention the faff of formula feeding).

Any advice or suggestions gratefully accepted!

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Irons · 02/05/2010 13:15

Does he have any teeth yet? My DD got her first teeth at 8 months and I often find when she is teething she goes off her milk. She is not BF though.

TeaandCake · 02/05/2010 21:01

Thank you for your reply Irons, yes, I think he may be teething. He has been a bit of a dribble chops of late and also chewing everything he can get to his mouth!

I tried formula in a bottle today but he wouldn't touch that either, I guess I'll just have to ride this one out then. My worry is that my milk supply will dwindle in the meantime. I have been expressing but I really struggle to find the time.

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Irons · 02/05/2010 21:05

I know, expressing is very time consuming. How about using some teething gel before a feed and see if he is a bit better.

Don't forget, check his temperature just to make sure he isn't unwell.

mears · 02/05/2010 22:00

I would ditch the dummy to be honest. I did that with my DS3 when he was 8 months and it didn't take him long to get over it. Do you offer breastfeed before solids? That might help? It is a phase that will probably pass if you don't stress over it too much.

willowstar · 02/05/2010 22:26

I don't have much experience but my little girl is 7 months old and was the suckiest little baby I have ever met...we have always had her dummy attached to her bib (she had reflux and used it a lot) anyway in the last 6 weeks or so I noticed she was putting it in herself a lot while playing.

I have no problem with her having it for comfort or for sleeping but didn't like her to have it all the time.

Anyway, a couple of weeks ago I started to hide her dummy in my pocket and only give it to her when she is about to go to sleep or if we are in the car and she is getting het up about something and I can't pull over. I thought it would be really difficult but it hasn't been at all. In situations before when I might have used her dummy I am usually finding I can distract her with something else. She still has it at night though and I am happy for her to continue that.

So, maybe restricting his dummy use might not be as bad as you think

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