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bf an 11 month old, how to help her space her feeds

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yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 10:36

Ok, dd has always been a little and often feeder. The introduction to solids has been very slow but she is finely turning the corner and eating a range of foods, managing at least two meals and sometimes snacks. She is still only managing app 3tbsp worth in a meal but this is a huge improvement. There has been no reduction in bf however. My main two times of difficulty are first thing in am and last thing at night. DD will get up and will refuse everything including solids, distraction etc until she has a feed (she still has at least one feed in the night) no matter how good this feed is, no matter if she accepts her breakfast afterwards she ALWAYS wants another feed within 45to 90 minutes, sometimes she will repeat this a third time as well. This also happens at night where she will fall asleep on breast, huge feed but then wake after 45to 90minutes and no amount of pat and hush, cuddle, etc will do until she has another feed again she may do this another time on some nights. She then goes for about 9hours sleep. During the day I can distract her somewhat and she will generally accept some solids before her bf but she still would drink every 3ish hours. I am really after help for the morning and night cycles as I don't know what else to try.

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yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 10:47

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yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 10:56

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yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 11:05

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yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 11:13

one more attempt

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yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 20:34

bump for the evening crowd

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MrsMalcolmTucker · 12/04/2010 20:48

I'm bfing my 11m ds, but just at night and in the morning. Sometimes he wants a feed after breakfast on the days when I'm at home (I work pt) and I don't let him. He gets really upset, and I just have to cuddle him and hold him until he gets over it - usually he either falls asleep or is able to be distracted by something else eventually, usually water but occasionally formula.

He now does this very rarely, so I think that they can learn at this age what to expect, but it is a bit horrible and I'm not sure if it's being mean.

slouchingtowardswaitrose · 12/04/2010 20:50

Honestly? I would advise you to ride the wave, accept and trust her feeding pattern. Sleeps for 9 hours at night? Awesome. Every 3 hours during the day? Brilliant. A couple periods of cluster feeding? Sounds about right to me.

IF I were going to try to tweak it, I'd suggest you stop the daytime distraction and let her feed on demand during the day. She is still so very little.

Sorry I was probably not the help you were after!

yawningmonster · 12/04/2010 21:02

slouching to be honest you have made my day everyone has been so critical in rl saying he should be on only 2 feeds a day and that it is now behavioural. I only tweak during the day if it is a pain eg during the school run or we are almost home etc and only if she is happy to be tweaked. mornings and evenings there is no distraction accepted she just continually searches my top saying booo boo boo unntil she gets it

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slouchingtowardswaitrose · 12/04/2010 22:28

She sounds like a smart little baby. Hugs.

kalo12 · 12/04/2010 22:34

my ds fed loads more than this, and wasn't a great eater of solids . didn't really eat solids properly til about 14 months. bfed constantly, infact 16 months was the worst if i recall. i fed him till 22 months, then did dr jays night weaning then finally stlopped bfing all together using choc buttons as a bribe i'm ashamed to say, but it got too much for me and i was working full time and he was still up 4 times a night so i had to stop.

i'd say its all normal, 11 months is still very young for solids, my hv said many bf babies don't start solids til about ten months is normal

mspotatochip · 13/04/2010 20:22

My ten month old ds sounds just like your dd. I feed on demand but a starting to worry if I should start cutting him down in preparation for nursery in June. He will be away from me 9-5 five days a week Added complication is he has a cows milk allergy so I do want to keep feeding him but I also have to work!

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