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Would you let 1st DS try bresatfeeding at 28mths?

39 replies

Jillbill · 30/03/2010 21:29

my 2nd DS is 12days old and BF really well. My 1st DS at 28mths is asking everso politly if he can have food from Mummy's nipple too.
Would you let him?

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greensnail · 30/03/2010 21:36

Yes, I would, but then i'm planning on tandem feeding when dc2 arrives. Did DS1 breastfeed and when did you stop? I think unless he's fed recently anyway he probably won't remember how to latch on properly so his attempts at bfing aren't likely to be successful, but i can't see any harm in letting him try to satisfy his curiosity.

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Jillbill · 30/03/2010 21:42

DS1 only BF until 6mths, so almost certainly won't remember the technique. thank you for reassurance

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Spidermama · 30/03/2010 21:46

I think it's a brilliant idea to let him have a go. It's so helpful in helping him with any jealously or concern about the new arrival which is inevitable to an extent.

Definitely let him have a go. Ahhhhhh! So sweet. My guess is he wouldn't want to do it too often as he'd get frustrated about how slowly it comes out compared with what he's used to.

Tigerlily1 · 30/03/2010 22:59

omg, my 3yr old ds1 asked me this the other day while i was feeding 4mth old ds2! i didn't know what to say but with his teeth i'm not really keen to be honest!
has anyone else done this? i did bf ds1 for 6mths but i don't think he'd remember the technique, although he does have milk in bottles still

Tigerlily1 · 30/03/2010 23:00

by the way, congrats on your new baby jillbill

tsom · 31/03/2010 23:05

My ds1 was 30 months when ds2 arrived. He asked to have a go at bf, I had bf him until I was pg with ds2 so I thought he might just remember how but he didn't, he had a quick suck, looked a bit shy and then announced "they're ds2's nummies now".

camdancer · 01/04/2010 07:29

My ds wanted to have a go when my dd was born. He was 22 months and hadn't fed for about 10 months. So he had a few goes, couldn't get anything out but we had a nice cuddle. TBH, I think it was more about the cuddle really and wanting to be a baby again for a little while. Letting him certainly helped with the jealousy - and anything that helps with that has to be worth it!

GracieGirl · 01/04/2010 07:36

Look at Kellysmom website for tips - they reckon unless you actually want to tandem feed and teach them properly, your older child will probably just kiss your nipple, giggle and run off to something else with their curiosity satisfied.

Good luck!

skidoodly · 01/04/2010 07:44

I wouldn't personally, or should I say I won't as it had kind of come up with dd1 (2) and dd2 (8 weeks).

It just feels weird to me. To me the idea of breastfeeding as a relationship has always made sense and that aspect of my and dd1's relationship ended 10 months ago when she was a lot different to hiw she is now.

I don't know if that makes sense, but I just wouldn't be comfortable with it. If you are then go for it. What harm could it do? (well maybe a bite, at worst).

AngryPixie · 01/04/2010 07:49

I hope I wont get shot down in flames here, because I don't have the slightest problem with anyone else letting their older dc try but when my 20 month dc asked I felt uncomfortable with it. So I told her that 'this was baby milk and that babies have different food and different nappies and a different bed to sleep in but big girls had...SUPERSONIC cuddles and sometimes.....just sometimes....TV and chocolate buttons' Cue many giggles.

I think it is primarily about the cuddles, and she didn't seem to suffer any angst from not being given a turn.

Again, not suggesting this is the right approach, but just offering an alternative experience.

AngryPixie · 01/04/2010 07:50

and WTF is that bunny doing on my post????

AngryPixie · 01/04/2010 07:51

I don't want you all to play with me and I did not put it there!

ArthurPewty · 01/04/2010 07:51

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Spidermama · 01/04/2010 10:04

PMSL @ the bunny and AngryPixie's staunch denial of culpability.

What's with the bunny? Is it an April Fool thing?

Fel1x · 01/04/2010 10:40

pmsl at the bunny

MathsMadMummy · 01/04/2010 10:50

I absolutely would.
I felt like I didn't BF my DD enough (mix fed for 8 months, but only using nipple shields) - and DS is a boob addict feeding really well - was kinda hoping DD would be interested but no
I gave her a bit of expressed milk and she drank it but didn't want it again.

moaningminniewhingesagain · 01/04/2010 10:50

DD just turned 3 and has asked a few times if she can have 'some of mummy's milk out of your tummy', am BF my 15mo DS. DD only breastfed til 3 months, so it's been a loooong time. I just said no it's just for babies, not big girls like you.

She didn't mind too much She just likes to copy him in any way she can.

MathsMadMummy · 01/04/2010 10:51

although I would be worried that DD would just bite me!

love the bunny, I saw one on a thread yesterday and thought the poster was just showing off!?

olivo · 01/04/2010 11:01

lmao at the bunny!!!

DD1 was curious when i was expressing for dd2, i told her what it was and asked if she wanted to try some. she nodded, held the cup to her lips then ran away with her face scrumpled up!

SPBInDisguise · 01/04/2010 11:02

lol that must be an MNHQ aoril fool??

MathsMadMummy · 01/04/2010 11:04

it might be an april fool but if it is, it's not that funny as it actually happens!

ImSoNotTelling · 01/04/2010 11:12

madmath

you often have bunnies wearing t-shirts run up to you and ask you to play with them?

To OP yes let DS1 have a try if he wants, there's no harm in it and a refusal could make him feel less kindly towards the baby IYSWIM

MathsMadMummy · 01/04/2010 11:15

lol! yeah I have a best friend called Harvey

I assumed SPB meant that the OP was april foolin' (apologies if I'm wrong)

ImSoNotTelling · 01/04/2010 11:19

Oh harvey.

Why didn't you say? he is here with me right now