Going away for the night - Advice needed, not comfy feeding in front of anyone..

[mama2moo]

We are staying with dps family next weekend with 8wo dd and I breast feed her.

I havent fed in front of anyone other then dp and really dont want to.

Im worried about going round to other peoples houses and having to ask for somewhere to go to feed IYSWIM.

She has had formula but I dont want to give it to her anymore! I could express but I only have 5 days and only get 2ozs a day (she will take 6oz of formula)

Any tips or ideas?

I don't think anyone at all would have a problem with you saying "dd gets distracted when she feeds sometimes. Could I feed her somewhere quiet?"

I'd have no problem with it at all (though would want you to feed whereever you want or feel comfortable - wouldn't want you to feel that you have to feed out of the way. I feed wherever and whenever...).

If you're staying with his family, presumably you will have a bedroom - in which case no need to ask - just say "I'm just taking dd for a feed".

could your dp speak to family you will be staying with so they know you are a bit self concious or maybe better to say, you find it easier to bf somewhere quiet so you can relax and dd can relax and feed properly. Then they will expect it and not be "where's she going?" etc when the time comes.

what is it that means you don't want to breastfeed in front of family?
Don't forget the trick of feeding baby under a scarf or blanket if it is exposure that you want to avoid.

I had a similar problem because in the beginning I was uncomfortable feeding in front of fil and then more recently because dd gets distracted and won't feed. Dh mentioned this to them and my pil have always been fine about me feeding her whereever I feel is best- with them or in a room elsewhere. Sitting in another room can actually be quite a nice break for you and the lo too. Most people I have visited have offered the use of a room just in case we need some quiet time so hopefully you too will find people will be accommodating.

As a side note, you might find you feel more comfortable as time goes on. I 'practised' feeding dd with close friends and it didn't take long before I was confident I could feed discreetly anywhere, which was very liberating. I even fed dd at my dh's graduation ceremony! And well done on sticking with breastfeeding.

Mama2moo I'm with you - I can't feed in front of FIL either! DD (7 weeks) must notice that I'm tense and just starts crying. I would blame your baby and say she's still young and easily distracted when feeding and nip upstairs for some peace and quiet in your bedroom. Its a brilliant way to escape if the in-laws start getting on your nerves even if your baby isn't hungry you can always pretend!

Thanks all. I have spoken to them and said I will disappear when I need to feed!

Most of the time I have to hold my boob for dd to be able to feed so its not very discreet!

I have expressed enough for 2 feeds as well so will choose them wisely!