Discreet breastfeeding, advise please

[LouLouH]

Hi Ladies,

Been trying to find a tasteful breastfeeding cover however they all look huge! I only want something tastefully coloured with not too much covering me as well as little one. Advice please.

give up
they all make it blindingly obvious you are Hiding Something

wear a vest under a normal top
to feed, hitch vest down below boob and hitch topo up
no flesh on show

I don't mean to be flippant Lou, but why do you need something specific to cover you? Are you going to an Arab country or something?
Surely if it's in the U.K or Europe a scarf/ muslin/ pashmina would be more than sufficient?
You have nothing to be ashamed of, your child wants to and needs to feed..

I wore baggy tops, and shoved the baby up under the top. If I needed to wear something more fitted then I used a fake (so easy to chuck in the washing machine) pashmina.

I thought this was quite nice:

www.mamascarf.co.uk/

Saw it on the TV. It looks more like a sling than one of those tent like covers.

Just to say I didn't use a cover as I also used the vest and pull top down thing. But I loved the breastvest as the vest to wear underneath.

Oh im not fussed about that its obvious what im doing, its just they all seem so damn huge! No wonder they call them aprons! Im not great for having a vest under a normal top (yes im strange), but it is a good idea. I don't have a care in the world about breastfeeding in public, my OH is the fussy one! lol

The bebe au lait
www.bebeaulait.com/
is expensive for what it is but does the job and comes in plain black or white as well as 'look at me' patterns.

Kate.. you are JOKING? Aren't you?

Lou.. Sort your OH out! Seriously, as the father of a breastfeeding infant he needs to be behind it 100% of the way..

Put him on here and I'll sort him out for you!

Hooter Hider gets me every time ROFL

mamsnet you make me laugh. My OH isn't funny about breastfeeding, he fully sopports it. He's just worried about some of the stranger types we unfortunately have in London! My boobs have gone bloody huge! So i can understand where he is coming from.

Is your OH worried about people noticing that you are feeding in public or is he worried that you will be 'exposing' yourself?

I just used a simple muslin square to drape over my shoulder / breast if I needed a bit more 'coverage'

That's good Lou, but I really do mean what I say about being comfortable (not necessarily militant!) and confident about what you're doing..

If you do get some perv looking at you just think that he's a sad bastard if he can't find anything better to be doing..

Xposts OP

gingertoo i used a muslin last time with DD, looks like i'll be doing the same again.

Layered clothes definitely helps, so that you can pull one layer down and one up so that you are not exposing your whole stomach (important for me as my stomach would shock more than my boob!) and baby's head covers alot too.

Although, that said, DS3 as he got older developed the habit of pulling away from the breast to give me a big milky smile - hence the muslin square for coverage

i think i'll get the top that helloooo suggested. Not a bad idea so worth a go! I had forgotten about the post baby belly, oh the joys!

Aww milky smiles are the best! You cant help but melt at their cuteness!

I often wear vest tops under nice v necks/cross over tops or anything with buttons down to cleavage level so i can whip my boobs up out of rather than having to go under and then use any old scarf of muslin if I want to be discreet particularly while latching on. This way I've managed to wear 'normal' clothes rather than live in baggy t-shirts/shirts or specific breastfeeding clothes. I have a nice cashmere shawl (chap tho from M&S!) for when we're anywhere smart! IME no one really notices when i'm bf-ing - most people are far too self absorbed anyway!

I think i've just forgotten how naturally easy it is. My daughter is 5 years old so haven't bfed for 4.5 years! It'll all come back to me i hope!

I think you do forget. I'm expecting DC4 in Nov and I'm trying to get my head round starting again - so let's hope it all comes flooding back

I think you'll also find that public awareness and acceptance has actually improved a lot since last time too..

I've posted this before but it's something to think about?

That sums up a lot of what I've been trying to say all day really.. oh, for the gift of eloquence..