Upset by comment made about tandem feeding

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I took DS (2.3) to a music group today. I am very visibly 27 weeks pregnant. During the session he was feeling shy so I gave him a quick breastfeed before joining in again.

Later two of the other Mums asked me about feeding when pregnant, and feeding a toddler with a new baby.(I don't think they knew it was possible before). I briefly explained, mentioning that colostrum is still made and it's important to feed the baby before the toddler in the early days.
'So the toddler gets sloppy seconds' said one of them, with a giggle. I was but thought maybe I'd not remembered the meaning properly, so didn't say anything, just moved away quickly.

Later I checked UrbanDictionary and it does mean exactly what I thought. I feel really upset that someone thought this was an appropriate term to use about the parent-child relationship, and even feel a bit sick. I'm normally fairly robust about this sort of thing but for some reason I can't get the comment out of my head.

Not quite sure why I'm posting this- maybe for catharsis or to (hopefully) be told that I'm not over sensitive. Thanks for reading if you've got this far

She might have not known the meaning though, and tbh when DS comes off my breast is fairly sloppy
Put it down to ignorance (hers) & don't let it put you off

I'm not sure she really was intending that usage of "sloppy seconds".

It was a flippant and silly comment. I know that would grate on me for days (in pregnancy I'd have been in bits) but it really is best forgotten, as I'm sure you're aware.

If you needed to look up the "meaning" of this phrase, then I think you can (and indeed should) assume that the person speaking to you didn't know that meaning either.

The "urban dictionary" isn't the final arbiter of what commonly used phrases mean to the people using them.

TBH I think you're being ridiculously oversensitive and taking offence just for the sake of it.

Do you really think that this woman was saying that your new baby's saliva was just like semen lubricating a woman's vagina?

I think you know fine well that she meant nothing of the sort.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and intention to tandem feed. It can be a lovely thing (I am a seasoned pro ).

There will always be people who are ignorant about breastfeeding, be it tandem or single. Best to educate or ignore.

I wouldn't have known what it meant.

It was just a silly comment, forget it.

Good luck with the new baby and tandem feeding!

Yes, you're both probably right and she didn't know (or intend) that meaning. I've never heard another meaning of it though, probably shows what sort of circles I move in!
It won't put me off, just a bit thrown by the remark at the moment. Will soon get over it!

Skidoodle- I knew exactly what it meant, just was so stunned that someone would say something like that that I thought I had surely got it wrong. I really was not taking offence for the sake of it, have had plenty of conversations about tandem feeding with people who have expressed robust views, just was taken aback by that particular phrase, which I do feel is quite disgusting and not something I want to think about in connection with feeding my DS and new baby.

I had no idea what that phase meant but have heard it used in the context of food & drink so it is probably exactly what I would say in the same circumstances of being interested, wanting to make conversation and perhaps being a bit nervous around someone new. I honestly don't think she meant it in a derogatory or sexual way.

She can't have known what it means in the sense you have taken it. Or she musn't have meant it in that sense.

She surely wouldn't have said it in polite company otherwise!

If she did know then yes I would also have been

I've heard that phrase before but had no idea it meant anything really offensive (still dont know what it means as havent looked it up - not sure i want to!)
i assumed it meant 'leftovers' type thing and I guess the other mum did too!

Wow, I had no idea of the meanings urban dictionary just told me about!

I assumed it meant a leftovers type thing too!

I obviously move in very depraved circles! I really have only ever heard the UrbanDictionary version, though it is not a phrase I use myself. The meaning came instantly to mind the moment she said it and that is probably why it upset me so much.
Thanks for the perspective everyone.