How many feeds does your extended breastfeeder have a day?

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I am BF my 8 month old DD. I BF my DS (now 4) until he was a year old. I would like to BF DD longer but she has already dropped to only three feeds a day (and none at night). This is because she is a good eater and loves her solids

I feel she will wean herself, like my DS, around a year old. How did you get yours to feed longer? Did you give less solids? Offer the breast for comfort more? Feed during the night?

Just interested how you get an eighteen month old to still BF!

You don't do anything. It is child led. They wont nurse if they dont want to.

DD1 always ate 3 big meals a day so it wasn't hunger driven. There really was no set pattern.

my 15 month old has about 3 feeds a day.

and feeds all night.

Same as motherlovebone - DD is 16 months and has about three feeds a day (sometimes more - more like 5 or 6 today) and then alllllll night I would love to cut down so don't offer any more but she asks and is quite demanding/determined. I think she just loves milk and sucking.

My dd is one so I am hardly in extended territory but she feeds to sleep in the day and before bed. Sometime she'll be toddling about and I'll say "dd would you like some milk" and she will wander over and sit on my lap and feed. Other times she ignores me. I feel as though I should be offering in the day still. She still feeds at night but we cosleep. Don't imagine that will stop for quite a while yet.

I understand what you mean though, it can be very infrequent some days.

Do you offer feeds or wait for your dd to ask?

I've been thinking a bit about this as Ds (10months) is down to one feed during the day, one very half arsed one (more comfort really), at bedtime and 2 or 3 through the night. He dropped the day feeds very fast when he started BLW at six months.

My "womanly art of breastfeeding" suggested that babies who feed less during the day may do so as a direct result of Mum being "less available" due to being busy etc. I thought this couldn't possibly apply to me, as I am available all day if he wants it...until we went on holiday and were stranded in Ireland by snow for three weeks, and surprise surprise, DS started asking for one more BF mid morning. Then we came back and I was sick and bedridden and when he came to see me in bed, he asked for BF every time (I say "ask" I mean nods his head and smiles and pants ). So now I "offer" more if we are just hanging out in the house, if he is grouchy etc and sometimes he accepts. He is still disinterested when out and about.

I don't know if this makes any sense. The short answer to your question is "it depends on the opportunities he has".

My 2.4 year old would feed all day long if I let her. Am tandem feeding and she wants a feed when her brother does, which is often! Unfortunately the sensation of feeding her is uncomfortable now (but not 3 month old ds) and I would prefer to feed less.

logrrl my DD seems to use it as a way of demanding my attention. I am around most of the time but admit I don't spend a huge amount of time playing with her as such (she doesn't seem to need it) but she often wants a feed when I'm MNing (or driving!).

My DS is nearly three and generally has feeds first thing in the morning and at bedtime, but during the day it varies massively - sometimes not at all, sometimes half a dozen, today one monster three-hour feeding-and-dozing session all afternoon (and hey presto, I have a sore throat this evening, so I bet he's fighting off a virus). it depends on the distractions, really - if we're out or he's engrossed in something, he might not ask all day, but if he's a bit bored or grumpy (or if I've dared to make a cup of tea and sat down to drink it 'while he's occupying himself', ha ha), he's a lot more interested.