Chatting about bf to a breastfed small child

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Chatting away with my DD about what she'd like for her b'dy, she suddenly volunteered:
"When I'm 4 Mummy, I'm going to not have boobie any more and drink coffee instead"

I replied along the lines of, she would stil be way too small for coffee, but boobie is for big girls too. My usual line has been when you're a big grl you won't need it anymore.....

I don't want to graft my middle aged angst onto my LO, but it has set me thinking. None of her friends are bf, you never see anyone feed a small child ... over the years we often talk about when she'll wean ... at 2yrs she was amazed to discover that none of her friends were bf... friends and family often remark on how she should hve stopped by now in front of her...

And if I am really honest, sometimes I wonder how much I am affected by the oft accusation that I am feeding her for me or that I encourage her to bf... and this has ironically made me careful not to do so...

Just wondering how other mums feeding older ones talk about it to ther LOs, and if being something of a rarity is any issue at all?

My nursing daughter (3.6 years old) talks to me about nursing. I find it very interesting.

I was really surprised when she told me that milk (breast milk) is lovely and warm. Obviously milk is made and stored at body temperature now I think about it but I just thought it would be cold ?

I find it interesting the way she is using her grown up negotiating skills to try and up her milk feeds.

DD : Mummy, Can I have milk for downstairs ?
Me : You can have milk for upstairs after tea.
DD I think woodwood (her name for 18 months old brother) needs milk. Can woodwood have milk for downstairs ?
Me Yes, if he wants.

DD : Well, woodwood should share his milk with me, mummy. Can I have milk, mummy.

My ds is 4.3yo and we talk about it a lot.

I tell him that if he wants to stop, then that is fine, and if he wants to keep going, then that's fine too.

Only yesterday, he told me he will stop when he is 64...... just another 60 years to go then.

My ds has had a breastfeed every single day since he was born, so it's no big deal to him I don't think. I don't really know if he knows/thinks about whether other kids have breastmilk or not.

He is counting the days til his little brother arrives bringing a bounty of milk with him.

DS2 (2.7) Has just come up to me and said 'I want downstairs milk. No not that milk, the other milk'. But we don't really talk about nursing or milk as such. Other than me occasionally asking him if he might stop soon and him ignoring me til I start being sensible .

lol@the replies...

DD is also a prime negotiator - when I was seriously thinking weaning, as she hit 2 years., we did talk about her friends who didn't get boob any more. Her first reaction was to be incredulous. On the second day she came back, and asked if I would't mind feeding her best friend too!

My fave time was when she started to explain how good it was... apparently better than chocolate, and lasagne... (and I make a particularly yummy one)... So I guess that makes me a yummy mummy in at least one sense.... (I fail miserably on the designer dress criteria, but at least I taste good!)...

Ok, I reckon I am casting my fears onto her.. after all she rarely sees another chld get a bath, but that doesn't give her any hang ups either

well,somtimes I try to discourage dc3,"soandso are not bf anymore". Her standard reply "I don't care"