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Stopping bf at 10 months - finding it hard and feeling sad :-(

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jasperc163 · 01/02/2010 20:26

I am finding it hard - DD2 doesn't seem to care either way. How long does it take to stop feeling sad and missing it??? Anyone?

Background is that I have been on domperidone at a high dose for 8 months (since 8 weeks). Every time I have come off it (as starting to feel concerned about the long term use) my supply has plummetted and I have upped my dose again. I stopped 4 days ago for last time and milk has pretty much disappeared. I had hoped I might have enough for a token feed in the eve before her bottle but its barely there. DD has been mix fed since i went back to work p/t at 6 months and doesn't seem bothered but I am still feeling v sad.

When do you get over it?
thanks

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MrsMotMot · 01/02/2010 20:49

Oh jasper I'm sorry I can't help but didn't want to read and not post. I should imagine it will improve bit by bit- remember you still have lots of cuddles and closeness in other ways. And you deserve to feel proud of yourself, feeding for 10m (and it sounds as though it hasn't been a breeze).

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jasperc163 · 02/02/2010 09:02

thanks mrsmotmot :-). Appreciate it. Yes its just a hard week as i feel worse than i thought i would about it but I didn't feel right taking pills at such a level for any longer. I have tried to carry on in the eve but i know there isn't much there so I imagine she will just lose interest soon as she gets very excited when I take her off the boob and give her the bottle!!

I know i should feel proud to have got this far - but of course i just feel bad about what I am not managing to do. Typical...

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Pozza · 02/02/2010 21:37

Hi jasper. I have just stopped bf my 8mo dd and am also really missing it. We've been trying to get her to take a bottle since she was 6weeks, but has always refused.Recently she's been reluctantly taking one from my DH, but with a lot of fuss and not pleasant for my DH so decided it was time to take away the breast option for her. She's now happily taking bottle, even from me, but it's just not as cuddly as breast feeding. It is loads quicker though. Sad that my little girl's growing up!

DitaVonCheese · 03/02/2010 09:08

No advice I'm afraid, just wanted to congratulate you on a job well done and hope you feel better soon.

runningmonkey · 03/02/2010 09:13

Hi jasper. I too gave up bf my 8mo three weeks ago. I had been down to one feed a day for a few weeks but still felt pants when I gave up totally. Sorry to say I felt rubbish and hormonal for about a fortnight but this week I feel great - feel like 'me' again, my boobs aren't sore any more and I am enjoying the cuddles of bottle feeding as I love the fact that DD looks at me while guzzling her milk.

Hope you feel ok soon.

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jasperc163 · 03/02/2010 11:42

thanks everyone - appreciate the support. I am not planning any more (this is DD2 - i wasn't able to bf DD1 for more than a few weeks due to very severe reflux and no supply when expressing as I didn't know about domperidone) and so I suppose its partly because I know that I won't do this again :-(

running monkey - interesting you say that as have been feeling very down generally this week and wonder if my hormones are all over the place? Domperidone works by increasing prolactin levels and these have obviously plummeted over last few days (given that my milk has immediately dried up). So maybe it is hormones as well as missing feeding her. I know I should be grateful that she doesn't care. I think she does a 2min bf to be polite as she looks very grateful when i sit her up and give her the bottle :-)

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changer22 · 03/02/2010 11:59

Hi jasper your DD sounds very similar to my DS. He did this too at 12 months. Had a polite feed then guzzled down a beaker of cows milk. My mother who was staying at the time said 'he's not really bothered, is he?' and it was true and that was the end.

Worse was his sister who when I went to feed her one bedtime (at 17 months) shook her head. I asked if she wanted milk and she said 'no'. And that was it!

I felt sad for a while but then recovered. I think the thing is that as a mother there is always something to feel guilty about and sad but most of the time it isn't your fault!

Hoping you feel better soon and tell yourself well done for feeding her in the first place.

runningmonkey · 03/02/2010 14:54

Jasper, yes I think those pesky hormones have a lot to do with it

Hope you feel better soon.

xandrarama · 03/02/2010 16:20

Jasper, I haven't (yet) been through this myself so can't offer any useful advice - but I wanted to express my admiration for your dedication to breastfeeding these past 10 months. Sounds like you've done a great job under not the easiest circumstances. I hope the sad feelings pass soon and you can enjoy this next stage in your dd's feeding life!

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jasperc163 · 03/02/2010 19:44

Thanks so much everyone. It really helps to have this support. I didn't attempt to bf tonight as I know there just isn't much there so thats officially it now. She didn't care and guzzled down an 8oz bottle. As you say I have to celebrate the 10 months (and give thanks to the God Domperidone ) and hopefully soon I will be able to focus on the positive rather than feel bad about not being able to carry on.

Appreciate it , thank you

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deedee321 · 03/02/2010 21:05

I had to reply to this, I so understand how you are feeling, I was very weepy when I stopped...just feels like the end of a phase of their babyhood. However, months down the line I look back on it with pride, just glad that I did it, and was able to enjoy the closeness it brought between me and my dd.

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