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Won't take breast but will take bottle

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Gogglecat · 19/01/2010 08:50

Hi! First time poster here.

I have a 4 day old girl and am starting to get worried about the amount of breast milk she is taking. She struggled to feed at first (with midwife help) and then after a brief period of 10 - 15 minute feeds she started to take a couple of gulps and then fall asleep at my breast. 5 mins later, she'd start crying again so we'd repeat the process. After 6 hours of trying in the hospital, with her having fed in total for less than 10 mins, the midwife tried her with some formula, which she gulped down and slept soundly for the next 4 hours.

We're now home and the problem has persisted. We had a visit from the community midwife who said that the baby is lazy (how you can be lazy at 4 days old I don't know) and that I need to keep persevering an putting her back on the breast, even when she's crying. Again I tried for 8 hours last night and into the early morning trying to put her back on the breast, with either her taking a few gulps and falling asleep or plainly not wanting to go on by pulling away and crying. In the early hours I had to give in and made a bottle of formula up, she took the lot and has now slept for 5 hours.

I've not slept since the birth, save a few catnaps here and there and really really want to breastfeed properly but at the moment just cannot see it. I'm hoping that my milk just hasn't come in fully yet and she'll take it better after that. Failing that, I just fear that I'm going to have to switch permanently to formula

I know it's early days, but this is my first child and I just can't bear to see her go hungry and also develop negative associations with breast feeding by me forcing her on all the time.

Sorry to go on, but I am wondering if anyone can offer me any hope!??

Thanks.

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WoTmania · 19/01/2010 11:26

Phone one of the helplines. Sorry but I haven't got a link to hand.
If she's only swallowing a few times then going to sleep she won't be getting much milk. Yoiu need advice on how to up ypur supply and how to keep your baby interested

ShoshanaBlue · 19/01/2010 13:50

Ok, my child didn't have anything until about 5 or 6 days as I had no colostrum and my milk didn't come in until around them.

On day 4 the midwife in hospital gave her a cup feed of artificial milk (so as not to confuse her).

My child had a tongue tie and couldn't suck - I spent the first 4 days trying to get her to suck my finger! Once she had mastered the art of sucking, she initially found it difficult to latch on (probably because there wasn't anything there so not worth the hassle).

I saw the infant feeding co-ordinator at the hospital who told me that once my milk came in that I would feel better and that my child would soon learn. I got very mixed messages as all the formula feeders could go home which I suspect was what the hospital wanted as it freed up beds! I even went to ask for advice about formula feeding and they weren't allowed to give me any!!!! (shocking really if you think how dangerous it could be).

I stuck in there and at the end of day 5 she had her first feed, day 6 I was discharged (but still feeling very down and underconfident about breastfeeding) but immediately sought help and joined a local group for support.

She went on to feed for the next 4 years. I hope this encourages you, but I am no expert. I would ask/demand/rant to see one.

Picante · 19/01/2010 18:34

Has your milk come in? Do you feel full?

Gogglecat · 20/01/2010 23:11

Thanks for the replies. My milk came in yesterday and I have decided to express because she's still not able to latch on and it's really gettng me down. I'll keep trying but hopefully this will be the solution!

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WoTmania · 21/01/2010 08:04

Have you phoned the helplines and/or found a local drop in you can go to? If there is a problem with her latch and positioning they should be able to help. Also, have you tried expressing a little to soften the breast and then tried latching her on?

FakePlasticTrees · 21/01/2010 08:13

googlecat - my DS is 3 weeks now, he wouldn't latch properly until day 11. He is currently feeding frm me now. I expressed and got in the habit of offering him the breast then bottle of EBM if he wouldn't take it.

If you haven't got one, get an electric pump, makes things so much easier. good luck!

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