MIL annoying me now!

[jomummy2]

I actually get on really well with my MIl but she is now really beginning to annoy me with her 'HELPFUL' advice.

I am breastfeeding my 9 week old daughter and have had a few initial problems with masitis and blocked ducts but overall love breastfeeding her. At 5 weeks i began expressing a bottle during the day and added a touch of formula for her last feed at 7pm. (about 2/3 breast 1/3 formula). She now sleeps from 7pm til about 4:30am which is just fantastic in my opinion. In the day however she is quite demanding in her feeds and only seems to be happy when attached to my breast. Not content in her bouncer and only cat naps through the day.

My MIL never BF and was always making digs about 'noone getting a turn at feeding her' (like she was a toy). Whenever i speak to her she goes on aboput my giving her ore bottle and that she just isn't satified with my milk in the day and not content and would be with bottle and a dummy. She keeps saying i cant keep on BF all day and getting no break from her and if i don't give her a bottle she'll never move off my breast etc etc (you get the picture)

It really * me off now. I love breastfeeding my daughter despite the problems i've had, she has a bottle at her last feed (although does like a bit of breast either before or after the bttle feed)

I figure she sleeps so well at night how can anyone moan at her for stocking up like she does during the day???????

i keep saying to her that i'm enjoying breastfeeding etc but the digs and ADVICE keep coming. The latest being a dummy will reduce dramatically the risk of cot death.

ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHH sorry just wanted to rant!!!!!!!

Mine's alright too, think it helped as she BF for 6 months and only stopped when her MIL told her too!

I used to give her PFB and get her to take him for a walk or whatever to give me a break, really helped even if I really preferred it if he was with me!

You're doing brilliantly.

I've always got on very well with MIl but had similar issues when dd was born.

She took me to one side quite seriously before a bbq when dd was 12 weeks (a sort of welcome to the world party) and said that I must let everybody have a turn with dd and it was best that for the day I just thought of dd as not mine. She pointed out that it wasn't fair if I held her during the day as other people had come a long way to have their turn. My Dad who was listening in was horrified.

I was still quite emotional and hormonal, dd was still feeding every couple of hours and I sat, ashen-faced in the corner while I could see dd rooting and getting cross in the arms of the 27th person that day. My Dad went and got her with a cheerful 'my turn!', beckoned to me surreptitiously and took me and dd upstairs, settled me with a drink and a magazine and quietly closed the door. He then distracted MIL for a good hour or so.

I do so adore my Dad.

My MIL used to do this. Her attitude was one of the reasons why I breastfed my DS1 until he was 2 years and 9 months old. It really wound her up. She has been much better with DS2.

Showofhands - your dad sounds amazing big thumbs up for him x.

Crack on OP, sounds like you're doing a fantastic job. These first weeks are so precious, and it will all change soon enough, so just keep on blocking out the 'advice' and keep your baby and you happy.

I wish that people would remember that every baby is different and that every Mum has her own way of doing things. It doesn't sound like your MIL is trying to wind you up though, just being over-eager. She is trying help in her own way - annoying though it may be.