Has EBF interfered with your relationship with DC?

[ChocOrange05]

Hi all

DS (14 months) has been having 1 breastfeed a day since he was 11 months old in the morning, and sometimes when I am at home he will ask for it.

I love BF-ing him but I sometimes feel like it is interferring with our relationship. For example, DS could be happily playing with DH but when I come into the room to try and play he immediately stops and bangs my chest and gets upset unless I feed him. I also find that if I hold him he will want to BF, rather than interact with me in other ways - playing/cuddling (although BF cuddles are great!). I love feeding him but I want to do other stuff too, not just be a milk provider!

Has anyone else experienced this? What did you do and how did you feel?

Thanks

dd and ds1 both dropped to just a couple of feeds a day from about 8 months, dd stopped comletely at 12 months and ds1 fed til 2.5 but for the last 12-18 months it was usually only morning and night, and by the last 6 months he wasn't interested in the morning feed anymore.

ds2 on the other hand has a bit of what you describe... he seems to like to know that milk is available at all times and will demand a feed quite often when i'm holding him just for comfort. but he's only 11 months so i'm not bothered about this at all yet... tbh i enjoy being able to make him hapy so easily, once the nursing stops it's alot harder to cheer up a cranky toddler

this is an interesting one.

DS is currently 9 months old and bf and unlike my dd he is totally clingy and wingy when he is around me. Honestly he can be perfectly content with someone and I will walk into the room I swear the moment he sees me he winges and it drives me INSANE

I am not sure if it related to breastfeeding or not to be honest.
I have heard that boys are more clingy and loving and he is totally different to how my dd was as a baby.

He does not really want boob, rather just be held by me, so not sure if the breastfeeding is the answer to the clingyness or if it is ds sex or personalilty?

Thanks for your responses. Anyone else??

Has anyone given up BF because of this?

Thanks!

DS is 22 mos and a bit like that, still bfs during the day (when i'm not at work).

Sometimes I do feel that Dada is for playing and rough and tough, and I am just for milk, but on the other hand he is so exhausting to play with and run around after that it is nice just to be able to relax with him for bf cuddles. SnowTulips' last comment is one of the main reasons I keep feeding, breastfeeding feels like my magic wand that will always make everything better .

Do you feed him on those occasions, and is he satisfied after you bf him? Sometimes DS will demand a feed and just five mins is enough for a "power feed" then he is so full of beans we have a great time playing.