What to say to people objecting to public bf?

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For the first time today someone objected to my feeding dd2 in public. A middle aged woman ( probably a grandmother) took the trouble to come over to me in M&S cafe and tell me that I should be "doing that in private" and not"subjecting" other people to it. Had tried the breastfeeding room there but it was full, and to be honest I was not at all upset but just furious - told her that I was sorry to have offended her but that i found her comments offensive, the baby was hungry and she didn't have to look. She tutted and walked off muttering that it was "disgraceful". Felt like telling her to F* off frankly. She couldn't see a thing anyway ( v discreet, baggy top etc)
What do you say to these people? Any ideas?It amazes me that in the same shop there were women with much more boob on show in low cut tops etc and nobody thinks twice. To be honest I've fed dd1 and dd2 in public and this is the first time anybody has objected. But I could easily have been upset and put off if it was the first time I'd fed my baby in public - she wasn't to know that. Ooo... getting angry just thinking about it again. What should I say if someone does it again?

Really?

Maybe times have moved on it was over 10yrs ago i worked in one.

You're right does sound like a good idea.

The lady i spoke about certainly got comfort in it, we always went along with her belief that the baby was real. (just got a little tricky to manage when she was taking her shirt off in front of other visitors!) But hopefully they understood.

I'd want to say "if you don't like it why don't YOU eat YOUR lunch in the toilet - see how you like it".
Although when someone loudly objected to me feeding ds2 I was so gobsmacked I just sat there red faced and seething.

"Piss off, you perv" or something similar?

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Lol Serah

I would just look directly at the mad old bat with a completely deadpan expression, make no reply whatsoever, but just carry on bf. Then she would look pretty silly. I've used this technique on various occasions (not bf in public) and it works a treat, eventually they realise how ridiculous they sound and end up shuffling off sheepishly.

Oooh, someone I know was told to move along and bf elsewhere by a security guard at Canada Water shopping centre! It's not my area, but surely they deserve a breastfeed-in ...

when my first baby was born I heard that someone had been aske to leave burger king because they were breast feeding...I suddenly started eating in bk when ds was hungry!!! No one stopped me though. i fed anywhere if baby is hungry its hungry!!!! Avoided feeding at granddads 90th though as i think older people can be offended because in their day you kept it all a bit private!!!!! Not sure how they got pregnant in first place!!!

I have been asked to move before by a waitress in a cafe even though nobody had complained!I just asked her if she would be asking me to move if I was giving my DS a bottle!To which her answer was no!!! Anyway I refused to move! I dont know why ppl have such a problem with something so natural!

I would have found something about her which I could complain about. Something like "do you have to subject other people to your selfish, bigotted attitude? You should keep your rudeness to yourself or talk about it in private."

Loudly.

Whenever I fed in public I always spent my time idly thinking up retorts. I never had to use one because no one complained.

me too...wanted too tell people where to get off

Friend got chucked out of a so called baby friendly supermarket chain, they picked the wrong girl there! Many quids shopping vouchers and apologies in writing!

Didn't happen often, i think if it had I'd have been too upset to say anything (my dh would've given them short shrift though!), would have liked to say;

' I would like to be able to stop your embarassment, but as that would involve seriously dimnishing the comfort of both myself and my baby, then I am afraid i cannot oblige'

or

'go away or me dad'll sit on yer, and he's eighteen stone'!