ds2 is sucking a dummy at the mo. Feeling nervous about it

[princessmel]

Don't know why I am as ds1 had one. dd sucked her thumb (still does now at 4yrs).

Ds2 (8 wees tomorrow) has started a phase of only sleeping on me or in the car or being pushed in pram. This is very draining obviously. I don't mind usually, but today dd and ds are off school and need me too.
Sooo he has started to show signs of becomming a thumb sucker but can't quite manage it yet. It's hit and miss and makes him a bit cross.
Anyway, today he fed for ages , then nodded off with my nipple in his mouth. I needed to shower and I have 2 other dc's to deal with.
So I walked around with him and he fell asleep on my arm , tummy down position and I lay him in his pram and swaddled him. He stayed like that for 2 mins then cried. So I put a duumy in and he sucked it and stayed asleep. It fell out and he cried again and I put it back in. That was half hour ago. He's still asleep. Not sure if dummy is in or out...

But now I'm paniking!!! At night he feeds all evening then conks out and sleeps in his crib for a good long time. Last night it was from 8.30 till 3am.

I am scared that using a dummy is going to make him want to suck more in the night and will want it putting back in all night.

Should I stop it now before I even really start??
dh doesn't want him to have one. Because of the 'putting back in all night' thing. We had this problem in a major way with ds1.

He just cried, I put it back in and he sucked it and is waking I think. Oh these dummys make me stressed! I'm sure this happened with dd and I tried a few times then gave up and she found her thumb.

Sorry this is very rambly and boring!!

Aw, Princess, you sound so stressed about it.

If it is letting you get showered and see toyour other kids, then it seems a reasonable thing to do.

Okay, it's a 'bad habit' but so is only being able toget him to nod off on you/in pram according to some people.

You can still let him feed all evening or whenever he neeeds is.

Fwiw, my ds had a dummy for the first 4 mths. I have no patience to sit cuddling (i know - heartless, eh?) so it was a life-saver for us. I know some people don't like them, but he is old enough to be past nipple confusion afaik, so why not?

Some babies have a very strong need to suck, stronger than others and obviously you can't be around to offer your nips whenever he feels the need to suck, not with two other DCs, so if he seems to like a dummy then problem solved.

This baby may be able to hold a dummy in his mouth better than your first DS so there may be less bother with having to pop it back in for him.

I am nicky! I just threw it in the sink!! He is currently feeding. I think when babies can keep them in they're great but when they need to be put back in all the time they are so stressful.

I can remember doing exactly this with dd. I kept trying, then saying 'I'm not doing this anymore', then trying again! Then gave up for good.
Then she found her thumb at 10 weeks.

I hope ds2 finds his.

I can't remember what happened with ds1 but he wasn't such a good night sleeper so it didn't matter.
It's silly fretting about it I know.

I think I'm just going to stick with the feeding/sleeping on me and hope he can find it.
Usually he'll nod off on one of the school runs or in the car too. None of that today as school is shut due to the snow.

True pineapple but tbh at the moment he doesn't seem that sucky at night and I don't want to change that iyswim.

And I suppose the reason he might suck more in the day is the reason he can go so long at night....