Starting to think Libido is an outdoor swimming pool.... How do you get your mojo back when you are bf?

[christiana]

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have you even tried to have any sort of action? even on your own?
he sounds pretty supportive, whether you can take it gently initially, without definitely going onto full sex, and just have a bit of fun?
i do sympathise, bfing does funny things...
fwiw i started drinking again....seemed to kickstart my mojo back into gear...

It is odd isn't it. With ds I wanted sex all the time while pg and we had pretty frequent sex from soon after he was born. With dd I couldn't have cared less about it during the pregnancy and am still not bothered. She is coming up for a year old and since my periods came back 3 months ago I now feel the urge around ovulation but otherwise nothing. I should probably do something about it really, I just end up letting him have his way while attempting not to get too bored every couple of weeks to stop him humping my arse in his sleep.

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lol at "to stop him humping my arse in his sleep"
ha ha ha ha...so with you on that one!!!

Sorry, can't help, I had o idea this could happen. I am EBF and we are back to our usual 3-4 times a week

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Don't look at her profile cristiana, you will be very .

I'm in the same boat, though DS is only 3 months old. Sex simply does not occur to me anymore. We've managed it once since he was born.

Don't think the Mojo has anything to do with breastfeeding, some women lose it after birth, some don't.

I've been breastfeeding for almost a year now and have no problems in the mojo department, but I know bottlefeeders as well as breastfeeders who do.

I think one thing which helps though is trying to keep looking nice, dress nicely, put some make up on, even if you're only going to the baby group or the supermarket. Not for him, as such, but so you feel good about yourself.

Sorry-do I deserve a slap?

I have been bf for six months and I think it is the tiredness that has caused sex to decrease, not the bf. We used to be an every night couple (even when I was pg) but now it is about once a week. It's not that I don't want to, it's just that I fall into bed with baby, feed him and then we bopth fall asleep instantly. DH comes up with cup of tea and finds us both fast alseep more often than not.

I wouldn't be so sure that BF doesn't have an effect. All those hormones whizzing around.

DD2 is 5 months and we have tried twice, poor old DH.

I know that last time things gradually went back to normal when DD was weaned and the feeding dropped off.

DS is 22 weeks, and we have only had sex once since he has been born I am more bothered about how my body looks and, erm, feels now, and I think that has more to do with it

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I must admit I feel worried that it will never come back.

I just don't fancy it at all, not a glimmer, ever.

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Ha well we've only tried twice since the baby and I was pissed both times so no idea! Things didn't seem quite right though, I think maybe I wasn't healed up properly or something.

Fingers crossed things will improve once the baby takes some solids!

christiana - always at night, we make a point of going to bed at the same time, very important for cuddles and intimacy in general for us. Haven't had morning sex for ages, never really been the right time for us IYSWIM.