Help! 9mo baby refusing breast and we are both miserable

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Up until yesterday afternoon bf was my 9mo baby's main source of food and comfort. But since then every time I try and feed her she screams and pushes me away.
She has a cold (but has had colds before and this hasn't happened), think she's teething and also she bit me yesterday so told her off which she didn't like .. so could be caused by any of this.
But am in agony and am worried she'll have forgotten how to bf and my milk will run out, have been expressing but haven't managed to get too much out so have boobs like rocks.
She's been eating her solids well, as always, and have been giving her some ebm in a cup (tommee tippie first cup) but she only takes a few sips. Before she was bf 5 or 6 times a day.
Now she screams herself to sleep as she doesn't have the comfort of bf before sleep times and won't even let me cuddle her to sleep.
Every time I try and bf we both get so distressed .. don't want to do bottles (would refuse anyway as dh has tried a few times in the past) and was hoping to wean directly to cup, but isn't 9m too young to be taking all the milk from a cup? Will she bf again when she's over her cold, teething or whatever it is? This is my last dc so would be really sad if this is it for bf. Or maybe it's all my fault for telling her not to bite me? Any advice would be much appreciated?

If she has got a cold and may have difficulty breathing while breastfeeding, have you tried sitting with her in a steamy bathroom with a warm bath running before breastfeeding?

My dd2 did this when she cut her first teeth. I think it lasted a couple of days, which was long enough for me to completely panic (not to mention the boob agony) and take her to emergency out of hours GP. Where she fed in the waiting room . I hope it turns out to be the same kind of thing for you. (I definitely don't think it can possibly be down to you telling her off for biting, btw. Really think you need to lay off the guilt now)

Have tried that and saline drops and vaporub nothing works. She's had worse colds before but has never refused a feed in a quiet place (has been getting distracted for quite a while in public but without distractions has always fed well

Thanks. When her first two teeth came through she was feeding more than ever (several times in the night) but now she's got a big one at the top coming through so could be that. Glad to hear they can still latch back on after a couple of days, so i can live in hope

Good luck. I really feel for you - I was so upset when dd2 refused to feed. She would completely panic and act as though I was trying to kill her. It was horrible.

She's now 13mo and still going strong feeding-wise. Weirdly, it has only happened that one time when she was cutting her first incisor. I saw blood on her gum when it came through, which I never did with dd1 when she was teething, so maybe it was especially painful for some reason.

Anyway, I do hope your dd sorts it out quickly and you don't suffer too much in the meantime.

This must be really distressing for you. You could try running a lovely deep warm bath and getting in with her, enjoying the skin to skin contact without trying to get her to feed, and just focusing on relaxing and cuddling her.

I hope she feeds again soon. It must be hard but please don't blame yourself..

Oh how weird. I posted to say I hope you've got it sorted, but it doesn't seem to have appeared.

Anyway, I do hope all is OK now.