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Infant feeding

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Am i alone? Secret breastfeeding?

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youwontlast · 11/11/2009 00:19

Okay so it's not top secret but here's my story. I have name changed.

DD is 8 weeks old, well almost 9, when she was born she was very sleepy and didn't want to feed/latch. After trying to make her bf for 24 hours the midwife told me i had to force feed her a bottle or she would end up on a drip. My parents and IL's who are not too keen on bfing anyway thought this was for the best. Breasts shouldn't be on show, you don't know if they are getting enough milk, you might make fil uncomfortable, blablabla. I bf my ds for 5 months but had to leave the room if visiting family or ils.

So 6 days after having my dd, my breasts were so full and sore i thought i'd try again, and she latched like a dream and i have been bfing ever sinse. BUT no one knows. Well i think no one knows. My dp knows, my sister knows, but that is it i think (and all you on here know). Once my fil was about to walk into my bedroom when i was feeding but only half walked in so i'm not sure if he knows. but no one has mentioned it.

I spoke to my MW about wanting to breast feed but she just said - if you want - she didn't offer support or anything so i didn't discuss it again, and the health visitor just asks me if she is feeding well and i say yes. She is putting on weight well and is above average. So even the HV doesn't know, i just felt that the mw offered me no support so i felt kind of embarrassed to tell the hv.

I know i probably sound off my head. And you all might guess who i am from what i've said already. But i need your help. It is getting to the stage where i am out and about more and visiting people.

My il's stay about 30 miles away so we usually stay over when visiting. How do i break out the boob and feed if no one actually knows lol.

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cara2244 · 11/11/2009 20:44

Well done and keep it up!
I love your list of places you have BFd...church is the funniest. My best ones were Nandos, and the changing room floor in Topshop.

abdnhiker · 11/11/2009 20:59

Congrats! But if you want to avoid conflict at your ILs what about saying "XXX needs to have their milk in a quiet room with no distractions so they'll eat well". I've heard this before from friends who had kids who absolutely needed quiet.

undressedfordinner · 11/11/2009 21:03

Good for you! I can relate to the feeling of shame as my MIL has had a go at me several times about bf as she thinks after 3 months babies need solids - whatevs - and I felt a bit weird feeding around her for a bit after. However, as time has gone on and I have become more confident that my milk absolutely is enough for my baby and he is growing fine and happy I have become a bit militant (as they say) about it and will get them out anywhere half hoping that someone will comment so I can give them an earful. I also felt weird feeding in front of my own parents but again that passed.

cara my own favourite was the breastfeeding chair in the display nursery slap bang in the middle of John Lewis . To her huge credit I was invited to feed there by the shop assistant (this in the Edinburgh store, don't know if you'd get away with it in England).

Vizzle · 11/11/2009 21:07

Good on you!

I had loads of pressure from the older generation when I was BF-ing. "She's not getting enough milk", "She should be on solids" (at 11 weeks - eek!) etc. Especially from people who didn't BF - my family were a bit like backseat drivers. I think it's nobody's business except you and the baby! Crack out the boobs with pride!

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