Abibub - no one is anything but pleased for you being so slim We're all delighted that you decided to formula feed and your baby took it without problems - and of course women should feel free to feed the way they decide is best for them and their families.
The majority of women want to breastfeed. Something like 80 per cent of women plan to do so, and something like 76 per cent of them actually start off breastfeeding.
Their choice is as important to them as it is to you. Wouldn't you say? The argument that everyone should do what they want yada yada yada does not hold water, as soon as you remember the choice of women to breastfeed.
What happens to the women - the women who have chosen to breastfeed - who stop breastfeeding in the first few weeks?
9 out of 10 of them wished they could have continued. What has happened to them being 'free' to choose how to feed?
They've hit problems - true.
But the vast majority of these problems are either easily (yes, easily) fixed as long as the mother has good info and skilled help, or they are not 'problems' at all, but unrealistic expectations of how often a bf baby needs to feed in the early days.
How helpful is it to them to hear someone say 'everyone should feed the way they want to, tra la la, and anyway, there's no real difference between breast and formula and what about the bad aspects of the immune system?'
For the record, there are no disadvantages to the baby of breastfeeding, except for very rare metabolic disorders which also mean they cannot be fed with standard formula. If the mum is HIV, the research shows outcomes of exclusive bf are no worse than exclusive formula feeding (worst outcomes are mixed).
The baby would undoubtedly 'prefer' to breastfeed.
Of course, you are free to decide that this is not a powerful argument, but please don't tell other mothers they are equally free to breastfeed - because they are not.