and frankly she is a PITA!
How do you carry on supporting someone who just ignores everything you say? I am not a BFC or anything, just a BF mum with a healthcare background. My sis is texting me with bizarre queries and we have discussed various concerns over the phone, at length, but its like hitting my head against a brick wall.
EG - current concern, her 16wo has stopped sleeping through like he was previously, and now waking x 2 each night for feeds, takes a while to get him back to sleep. And is worried he has only gained 1 oz in the last week.
I talked to her about the waking - ie normal and healthy and may be for the forseable and encouraged her to evaluate what is bothering her - ie is it the feeding? Is she too shattered? Is it the struggle to get him back to sleep. The struggle to get him back to sleep is the issue so I suggested she tries to help him learn how to get to sleep without being rocked by working on the daytimes first etc
And the weight - We talked about no need to weigh every week, overall is gaining about 3oz a week atm, he is healthy and growing, plenty of wet/dirty nappies and so on.Fine. So 20 mins later she says she wants to top him up with formula. I asked why, she said well it might help him sleep through, and help with the "weight issue".
GGGGRRR I just reiterated the above and added if she hated the BF (She has never seemed very comfortable with it)she had done well to get this far but PLEASE ring the NCT or ABM line for further support.
I have given her a copy of bestfeeding, a medela pump, observed her latch in the early days when she was struggling, and a listening ear, not sure where to go from here?