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help on bf reqd. mears are you there?

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edgarcat · 07/05/2003 11:38

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pupuce · 07/05/2003 11:45

How much does he feed and sleep daytime?

pupuce · 07/05/2003 11:46

Do you feed 1 side only ? If yes.... have you tried 2 sides (after winding... start 2nd side) at night?

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 11:54

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pupuce · 07/05/2003 12:00

So at 4PM feeds, then 6PM, then 8PM... is taht what you mean??? Just trying a bit to understand what sort of patter your baby is in.

I've just spent 2 nights with a mum of a 5 week old who fed every 3 hours at night and he woke at 12, 3 and then 5,.... and I kept him with me at 5 and cuddled him.... I didn't think he was really hungry... he fell back to sleep at 5:45 (but i know mum would have fed him if I brought him to her) and he woke at 7AM in a lovely mood not even starving (which surpirsed me!) So I do wonder how much these babies actually eat out of hunger rather than habit.
Obviously it is very hard for a mum to not feed a baby in the middle of the night - I know that....

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 12:05

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mears · 07/05/2003 12:11

Hi edgarcat,

There are lots of different things that work for different people.

What I personally did during the night, was bring baby into bed, latch them on and go back to sleep. I would wake up again with a snoring baby who had dropped off the boob then I slid them back in their cot. I found that for me this was the best way of getting sleep and not being wound up watching the clock.
You really get to the stage that you feel angry when the baby wakes and you look at thge clock first thinking 'oh no'.
There were unsettled nights of course where I asked dh to get up and rock them in the pram to give me peace - I knew they did not need any more feeding.

You could try feeding from one side, changing the nappy then feeding again from that same side. You might find he will go longer because he has had more fatty milk.

If that is what you normally, you could try getting him to feed from the second side as well.

Try and make sure he doesn't go much longer than 3 hours, 4 at most throughout the day. If he takes more milk during the day, he may look for less at night.

At night you tend to want to keep things quiet. If you choose not to take him into bed, you might want to try and stimulate him to take a longer feed hence the changing the nappy after one side. Undress him a bit, try skin-to-skin. Babies often feed better when they feel your skin against theirs.

Hopefully there is something here that will help. He will get better and start to go longer soon. Remember to try not to look at the clock

mears · 07/05/2003 12:15

Just read your post.

At 11pm try feeding him from one side, burp him and offer him the SAME side again. That might make him go longer (maybe not, worth a try)

Do the same with the opposite breast at the next feed.

Try moving his bath to the morning as well. Some babies do not feed so well because they are exhausted. He may well take better feeds in the evening then.

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 12:16

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pupuce · 07/05/2003 12:16

Can your DH try what I did with this baby mentioned below?

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 12:17

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edgarcat · 07/05/2003 12:19

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edgarcat · 07/05/2003 12:20

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pupuce · 07/05/2003 12:39

Where is DH, MIL or just your mum???

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 12:43

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mears · 07/05/2003 12:47

Edgarcat - drop the bath altogether for a few nights - babies don't need bathed every day. I had 3 under 5 yrs so know what you are going through. Another reason to keep the breastfeeding going. Number 4 only got fed when I could fit it in, inbetween nursery and playgroup runs. I would have had to constantly make bottles 'cause I would not have had time to let her finish one

pupuce · 07/05/2003 13:06

Do drop baths.... and get DH to help you on Friday and Saturday night.... and see how it goes!

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 13:14

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motherinferior · 07/05/2003 13:34

I struck gold when actually waiting for my baby to be hungry - realised I was feeding her every time she rustled but in fact if I left it a bit (mainly because I was so exhausted) she'd quite often drop off, whereas waiting till she was actually hungry was amazing - took a couple of nights and she was sleeping through. Can't guarantee it for everyone (she was a bit bigger than yours, about 3 months) but it did make a huge difference...

edgarcat · 07/05/2003 13:37

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SofiaAmes · 07/05/2003 21:44

I think some of it may be personality as well. My ds (my 1st) fed every 2 hours day and night for the first 6 mo. Everyone told me that he was feeding too often, that I was doing something wrong, that I should leave him to cry, etc. etc. I decided that it wasn't really that bad and that I would know when I had had enough. He slept in bed with us, so I would just roll over, put him on the breast and then go back to sleep while he fed. Anyway, at 6 mo. I decided I had had enough and put him in his own bed, did controlled crying and started him on solids all in the same week. He was sleeping through the night within 2 days.
My dd on the other hand slept 5 hours straight the night she was born and did 4 - 6 hour stretches at night on a regular basis from the beginning. I did controlled crying when she was 5 mo. old and she has slept through the night since then (she's now 7 mo.).

edgarcat · 08/05/2003 08:16

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pupuce · 08/05/2003 09:51

Did he feed at 520???
Well done!

edgarcat · 08/05/2003 11:56

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pupuce · 08/05/2003 12:14

Brilliant then.... well done !

edgarcat · 09/05/2003 17:21

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