how do I stop feeding dd without having my eardrums burst?

[liahgen]

she's just 2, (may) and is fed morning and bedtime. Bedtime sometimes shes a bit stroppy, ie, "no boobygrobag" (all one word, bless) but then get hysterical if I try and put her to bed.

Morninngs she's fine, she snuggles up and I doze.

TBH, I think I might have had enough now though. We are TTC#6 and I think feeding her migt be hindering out attempts, and tbh, sometimes, it's just too much of a fight at bedtime.

however dh is not around at bedtime, she shares room with dd, (4) and will stand and scream if I put her to bed without.

If i'm not around, she's happy to go to bed with no booby, likewise will get up happily without if i'm not there.

suggestions on a postcard please and thanks in advance.

what happens if you offer a bottle or cup instead?

She's never had a bottle and tbh wouldn't want her to have one at 2, and she won't drink milk so can't offer a cup.

They have a drink of water before bed but after stories, routine is I lay on bed with her, she in her grobag, and feed her, when she's had enough, goes awake into her cot.

If I try to get away with no feed, all hell breaks loose.

This is just my guess, but maybe you could try introducing some other kind of 'lovey' or comfort thing while you're the bedtime feed. Maybe give her a soft cloth or a bear or something to hold while she's feeding rather than lying down with her? Then perhaps you could try to phase out the feed - maybe cut down on time gradually rather than waiting for her to finish? - but leaving the lovey would mean she's not having all her bed comfort removed.
Can you devise some sort of gentle transition of the routine involving a feed to a routing not involving a feed but with lots of intermediate steps?

Any chance of contriving 'not being around' for a few days and seeing if it breaks the habit - for our 2yo DP has to do all changes of routine and then DS takes it in his stride - if I try to change 'our' routine it doesn't go down too well [understatement emoticon}!

Like the idea of a lovey not sure i'd call it that though, gos some nice fleece somewhere.

Actually, am gonna be away Fri, sat next week, that might be enough to do the trick. Dh will be here then.

thanks ladies

I don't mean 'not being around' as in on holiday! (though on second thoughts...) - but maybe pretending you're doing night classes, or visiting someone in hospital, for a few days just around bedtimes...

oops, x-post!

Dh works till 8pm every evening barr weekends so bedtimes are down to me. Hopefully next weekend will perhaps do trick, I do feel guilty though, and not sure i even really want to stop, just think it's a pain in the bum when she;s creating.

bump for daytime crowd then loopy

how old is your dc