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11 month old won't breastfeed anymore?

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BeatrixRotter · 20/05/2009 08:03

I was just wondering if my DD was self weaning?

She was on 4 bfs a day, she has just started to refuse the bedtime feed and now this morning I've tried to feed her as normal and she gets really upset and fights to get away. She drank a little milk from a cup but is fine in herself and playing happily.

Is this the end, or a temporary strike? I guess I always thought I'd choose the last feed.

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 24/05/2009 13:11

Are you expressing Bea? you must be in agony with all this milk not being used...If you are expressing, then at least you'll know it'll still be there for your lo if/when she wants it again.

Glad she's better too!

wuglet · 24/05/2009 17:34

Glad she is feeling better - does seem like she is remembering that boobs are nice!

It is lovely weather isn't it - had my little boy's birthday party yesterday. He is now 1 and still breastfeeding happily so hang on in there!

Just in case you didn't see my threads of woe around the last strike - here and here.
TBH the second one made me cry a lot after getting the first few replies - think that was a hormone thing though, because no-one was being horrible to me in their response!

Hope the end is nigh for you!

(that sounds a bit sinister doesn't it but you know what I mean )

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BeatrixRotter · 25/05/2009 09:30

Not exactly a breakthrough but something did happen last night. She woke in the early hours so I took her some EBM in a cup. She was nestled in my boobs drinking it and just gave my nipple a little suck, not latching on just the nipple and just for a second.

SoloMeredith - I seem to get less and less everytime I express but will carry on for the time being.

What a nice day for a birthday party wuglet.

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wuglet · 25/05/2009 17:36

Oh it does seem as though she is starting to come back though!

Hang on in there you can do it!

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BeatrixRotter · 26/05/2009 17:23

I don't want to jinx anything, but she breastfed this afternoon! I tried to make the most of it in case it was the last time, not easy in a noisy cafe with people shoving your chair, but who cares!

Just wanted to thank everyone for posting, and for the encouragement.

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wuglet · 26/05/2009 17:31

yeah for you!!!
so pleased

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BeatrixRotter · 26/05/2009 17:37

Thanks wuglet

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BeatrixRotter · 26/05/2009 19:53

I just wanted to add to this in case anyone is searching for info on nursing strikes and reads my thread.

If I had followed the advice of HV, MIL and many friends I would have just accepted that bfing was over. If you want to give your LO an opportunity to carry on it is worth following the advice given on this thread and others, and on the kellymom website.

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bumpybecky · 26/05/2009 20:04

woooo well done!

just read this thread for the first time and so pleased to see there has been some positive boob action at the end!

I think you're right to ignore the advice that it's all over. Looking back now I'm sure dd2 had a nursing strike at 8 months rather than self weaned. I know a lot more about feeding now than I did then. I still regret not feeding her for longer

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BeatrixRotter · 26/05/2009 20:50

NCT breastfeeding counsellor told me there is a hormonal change around the 8/9 month mark (something to do with the remains of pregnancy hormones) that can affect the taste of the milk. Most babies don't mind but some are affected by it.

Breastfeeding your DD for 8 months is still amazing.

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bumpybecky · 26/05/2009 23:24

that's v interesting about the hormone changes, didn't know that

I know 8 months is ok, but the others all had longer - dd1 13 months until she bit lots and laughed!, dd3 22 months until she self weaned and ds 16 months so far.....

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BeatrixRotter · 27/05/2009 09:19

How old is he lockets?

I didn't really think DD would start again but she is still going this morning. I tried to have lots of skin to skin contact, bathed with her in the evening and had my boobs out just in case (did it whilst expressing). I also let her watch some you tube videos of toddlers breastfeeding. Probably had nothing to do with it but I thought it might put the idea in her head. Is difficult though to have the time to do these things.6+

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BeatrixRotter · 27/05/2009 09:20

6+ was DD's contribution.

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lockets · 27/05/2009 09:24

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wuglet · 27/05/2009 11:56

Hang on in there lockets! (if that is what you want to do of course)

DS is still feeding very happily at 1 having had a 19 day nursing strike at 10mo.

Expressing is a complete PITA I agree

almama · 29/05/2009 11:33

I know first hand how unbearably sad and frustrating it is when your baby suddenly stops breastfeeding. And I know what you mean about lack of support (in RL). People saying you should be happy it is over doesn't help and can also really hurt. Posting on MN kept me sane.

wuglet I don't know if you remember me, but I had a terrible nursing strike this winter, and you gave me such good support, which I appreciate to this day, even if mine didn't end with the result we hoped for (sorry to hijack!)

wuglet · 02/06/2009 21:47

Hi almama

sorry just seen this - no internet access what with my amazing interesting life and all!

I do remember you and the frustration you were going through - was before my monster strike but the fact that you had mentioned feeling very hormonal at the time helped me by knowing I wasn't the only one feeling this bad when I was going through it.
Did keep an eye on your original thread but only picked up your new thread (where you said you had stopped) about a week after it started - wasn't ignoring you!

Lockets - how are things going with you?

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