stopping bf questions

[bluepanda]

I'm just not sure I'm doing it right... Not convinced i have much milk left, my boobs have shrunk, I am currently still feeding 14mo at bedtime and have just started trying to stop morning feed (bribing with raisins instead!) He doens't seem too fussed in the mornings, has only fed maybe 4 mornings out of last two weeks and am only offering it when he asks. Is this the best way to stop? Could my milk just dry up? Any advice gratefully received - never thought I'd last this long, it was hard work to start with but no-one ever told me it would be this hard to stop! (or maybe i'm just too cowardly to face the battle)

Are you trying to wean him off completely? If so, you are doing just fine. Your body will adjust to the gradual decline in demand.

It is quite possible you will provide enough for the bedtime feed to have him be comforted and soothed. You could do that for awhile still, but if that is something you are wanting to end at some point as well, do so gradually as you have the morning feeds. Maybe wait until he has stopped the mornings altogether for a bit. Cuddle him close with a blanket or cuddly toy, offer a dummy if he uses one, small amount of water in a cup or bottle if he takes it that way.

bluepanda, if you are trying to stop BFing you are doing the right thing. Your body will adjust, may take a few weeks depending how often you still feed.

I have just stopped BFing DS3, who had only been taking feeds in am and pm at 13 months. I had had enough, in fact never thougth I would keep going this long . I kept offering him a feed for the next couple of/3 weeks whenever I felt uncomfortable, just for "decompression". The whole thing was totally untraumatic for him and for me, DH can now also give night-time bottle of cow's milk and I can participate in DS1 and 2's bedtime.
There was no battle at all, I really think because DS3 was ready. Although I am sure that he would have kept going if I had kept offering, IYKWIM.
As somebody (on here of course ) said to me: he will not remember the last BF, but you might... In all honesty, I cannot remember the last one (now over 10 days ago) because the last few had been so spaced out.