breastfeeding twins --help

[mum2twin100]

Hi everyone.
My twins are 5 weeks old. I feel confused. Twin 1 seems to be happy and quite relaxed but Twin 2 is very tight and sometimes when she eats she gets really angry, chokes, and cry. When i feed them together they would fall asleep but as soon as i would put them down they wake up and cry. Especially the twin 2, even when my husband takes her and comforts her she would take quite some time to fall asleep in his arms but then as soon as he would put her down she would start to cry. He thinks that there is something wrong with her or that she is not getting enough milk so him and my mother in law (that bottlefed her 3 babies) both think that i should start giving her bottle to top up but i really dont want to do that as i'm afraid i will spoil milk supply and demand. also my concern that twin 2 is lighter than then twin 1. Could it be that she is just takes a lot of air and that gives her so much pain? So would it mean that bottle would help?
Thank you for your advice!!!!!!!!!!!

I would persevere with the breasr, also would look into taking them both to see a cranioestopath - i have seen feeding and settleing/sleeping issues dissappear after a few visits.

Are you able to settle in bed with the babies for a few days so they can eat and nap with you, it won't 'spoil' them but will be relaxing for you all.

Thank you MatNanPlas,

I kicked my husband out of the bed, which he is quite happy about as he can get a good night sleep. So me and babies sleep together and when one wakes up i lay next to her and feed and we all carry on sleeping until about 9 in the morning so i do get a good sleep. But i do worry that i might spoil them. I dont care at the moment really as i really need my sleep otherwise i think i will be so stressed. I will look into seeing cranioestopath. Thank you!!!

cranial osteopathy worked well for my dd. She still takes time to settle but now its five mins of a little bit of crying when she's overtired not two hours of screaming while I break a sweat rocking her to sleep. There was a difference in her from the first session.

I think its great your BF twins, I struggled enough with one at 5 weeks so I really admire you perservering feeding your babies, well done!

Not wanting to be put down is normal and very common in babies of this age and has nothing to do with the way you feed the baby.

Maybe twin 2 is wanting to feed more often to build up her weight?

You CANNOT spoil babies of this age. Really, it is impossible! You are doing a fantastic job, giving your twins the best start with the best milk and lots of nurturing love and cuddles. I think your sleeping plan sounds extremely sensible. Can you imagine what it would be like to have to prepare bottles for both of them in the middle of the night and sit up to feed them? If it's working for you then don't change it, that's my motto. And your MIL probably has every good intention for you and your babies but she is not an expert on BF or babies, so before you start with bottles you might want to take advice from someone who is, such as a BF counsellor or paed.

Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!
Your messages is really what i needed. You may think its silly but i feel teafull, i mean happy tears! That someone understands me! Thank you!

Hi mum2twin100 - congratulations on your twins, and on feeding them so far yourself

• "Could it be that she is just takes a lot of air and that gives her so much pain?"

There is no way she could be taking air in from sucking at your breast, so don't worry about that. Some babies are just windier than others - nobody really knows why. The only physical problem I can think of is that she might possibly have a bad latch, but you haven't mentioned it being painful and I think it would have been more evident as a problem before now.

Have you got a sling at all? Perhaps twin 2 would benefit from being carried upright for a while after a feed - your husband could do this if he feels he wants to help you out as you are doing all the work by breastfeeding (which is a common reason for husbands to suggest bottlefeeding - they are trying to help, really! They just don't realise that actually that is the last thing you want to hear at the time.)

Nope you really cannot spoil a baby

Just want to wish you all the best, it IS really hard work breastfeeding twins for the first few months, (I've done it) but just feed them as much as possible and don't be put off by other people's comments or routines. I wish I had taken this advice myself!!!
Bottlefeeding twins can be a lot of work in the long run, although at the beginning it seems like an easier option. By the time they are a bit older you will really appreciate the ease with which you can settle them, comfort and give them a drink. The stress of latching both on simultaneously at the beginning, and all those cushions, passes and you find they get much better at it. It is worth it although the early days can seem impossibly hard. There is a twin mother who recently breastfed and I think still does called Neenztwins who often posts on MN - she might be worth tracking down for supportive words.
Other people can help a LOT just holding changing and cuddling babies, you should just be allowed to concentrate on the feeding. The more you feed the more milk you will make.

Thank you so much agan!

Thank you swanriver you gave me so much more confidence! xxxxx